Parting ways with someone doesn't necessarily mean you no longer desire to be with them. Too often people break up, but never completely get over it. To make things even worse, extra baggage is carried into the next relationship, rather than being left at the door. This can lead to unwanted drama like heated arguments, and cheating. Here are some signs that show that you're not over your ex.
1. Every new mate has similarities to your
ex.
Scenario 1: Everyone you date looks like your ex. Your
first love was a tall, muscular red bone with wavy black hair down
his back, so your current boyfriend is a muscular, red bone with
long, wavy black hair. When your best friends start mixing these
guys up because they feel they look too much alike, there's a
problem.
Scenario 2: The name of your last three exes were all
"Jonathan." How ironic. Out of the millions of people
there are out there, you still manage to end up with someone named
Jonathan. (It looks like your friends don't have to
worry about name slip ups on that one.)
Scenario 3: Lets say that you're living in Arizona, and you hooked up with a thirty-five year old guy who lives in Bumpass, Virginia. (Yes, this is a real place.) After three years of being in a long distance relationship together, you break up. After the breakup, you took it upon yourself to log onto the internet and search for all the thirty-five year old men in Bumpass, Virginia. Six months later, you're in a relationship with another man in his mid-30's, who lives in Bumpass, Virginia. Why? You don't have any relatives there. You're not all that fond of the location. Your job stays in Arizona, so it's not like you go on business trips there. Why are you constantly hooking up with guys from Bumpass, Virginia? I'll tell you why; you want to feel closer to your ex.
2. You replace the face of every new partner with
the face of your ex.
His name is Quincy, but you slip up and call him the name of your
ex. In order to stomach his being around you, you imagined that he
was your ex because your ex is who you're longing for.
(This is what led to the name slip up.)
3. EVERY song played on the radio reminds you of
them.
If the Fat Boy's All You Can Eat song comes on, and it
drives you to tears as you reminisce of all the times that you and
your ex went to all-you-can-eat buffets, there's a problem.
This song isn't even about relationships, and you're still
tripping.
4. You try and make sure that your ex never forgets
about you.
Even when your ex has moved on, you feel the need to make a
presence so that they don't forget about you. If you see your
ex in public with their new mate, you may feel the need to walk up
to them and talk about your new life, and or leave comments on
their profile like "Your girlfriend/boyfriend is really
lucky…" Why do you need for them to remember you, unless you
plan to be with them again? Move on.
5. You try and find ways to make your ex
jealous.
To make your ex jealous, you call to tell them how you met someone
new, how the new guy is so much better, and how you're finally
over them. If you were truly over your ex, you wouldn't feel
the need to rub things in their face.
6. You act like you're still together.
Three months has passed since your breakup, but when you see your
ex in public holding hands with someone else, you throw a fit like
they're cheating on you. You're no longer together. Move
on.
7. You don't want to date anyone else but your
ex.
You're single not because you need time for yourself, or
because you need to sort things out, but because you feel that you
should be with your ex. Even after the fact that they
moved on, you still wait for them. If you keep waiting the way that
you do, you'll end up being that old, single lady with the
chihuahua.
8. You bring your ex up in every
conversation.
If you're constantly bringing up your ex's name in
conversations more than the Catholics chant "Mother Mary"
at Mass, there's clearly a problem. (It's even worse if you
keep referring to your ex in conversations that you're having
with the current person you're dating.
That's rude!) It's only a sign that you never fully
got over your past relationship. There's clearly some issues
that you need to resolve on your own; you can't depend on
others to resolve them for you.
9. You refuse to let go of reminders of your
ex.
Rather than tossing them aside like old broken furniture, you
decide to leave all the pictures of you with your ex hanging up on
your walls, along with the giant, dusty "I Love You"
teddy bear sitting next to your bed. When your new mate tells you
that you should get rid of them, you get all defensive. This is
because deep down, you refuse to completely let go of your previous
relationship.
10. You hang out with your ex more than you do with
your current mate.
You were just using your current mate as a bench warmer for your
ex. There is no reason why you should be going out on outings with
your ex more than your current partner. If you are, why are you
even together? It's a waste of time.
