User post: How honest are you about the people your friends choose to date?

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  Posted by *devotion72 Wed Jul 15, 2009 5:49am PDT

  He has to live and learn from his own mistakes. I know you want to tell him to walk away from this ex; but if he's the stubborn type he won't listen to you. Been there done that.

  I did that with a friend and we stopped talking for a long time. I actually didn't see him for 5 years! Although he tells me today...I wish I would have listened to you! I tell him...well now you know...live and learn!

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  Posted by Toun Wed Jul 15, 2009 7:25am PDT

  I believe in saying exactly how u feel about the situation.Truth is not always palatable to the ears.It may cause a strain in your relationship but that also depends on how you put it across to your friend.If what you say ends up happening I believe he/she would appreciate you for it later.What are friends for anyway?

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  Posted by Aurora Jette Wed Jul 15, 2009 10:12am PDT

  I try to tell the truth nicely. You can't force someone to see something they don't. They'll make their own mistakes, but I normally make my opinion known in one way or another.

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  Posted by Ms Chelly Wed Jul 15, 2009 10:29am PDT

  Friends that are close to me know that if they ask me to be honest about something, i'm going to tell you exactly how I feel, honestly. I can be blunt sometimes, but its just me getting out my opinion.

  That being said, I remind them my opinion is just that; they can chose to take my advice into consideration, or they can just ignore what I say and do their own thing. Either way, I feel better knowing that I tried to help them in someway by putting my two cents in it, whether they listen to me or not. I think it's good for you friends to have your honest opinion, especially if their looking at a situation one-sided and need some well needed advice. Like Toun said, what are friends for?

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  Posted by Cherish Wed Jul 15, 2009 10:56am PDT

  I am with Ms. Chelly. I am honest with my friends and they are honest with me. That being said, we allow each other the room to make our own choices without the fear of being judged.

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  Posted by Compassion Wed Jul 15, 2009 11:04am PDT

  I once said to a friend that I don't want her to get hurt by someone who doesn't deserve her. That was the end of our friendship. Two years down the line she still refuses to talk to me.This so called "man" sleeps with every available girl and impregnate minors. O, I forgot to mention , he is 13 years younger than my friend.Mother and son? Desperate woman in her 50's? Don't know and frankly it doesn't matter anymore. Different things make different people's boats float.Our friendship was just not important enough to her.Nowadays I avoid giving my opinion about my friends' boyfriends, they're adults and suppose to be able to judge for themselves.

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  Posted by Kevin Wed Jul 15, 2009 12:48pm PDT

  To be honest, hahaha... I tell the truth, no matter how much it hurts, but I believe if someone ask my opinion, then I'm going to give it to them. If they don't like it, at least they'll respect my opinion.

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  Posted by Rebecca G Wed Jul 15, 2009 1:49pm PDT

  It depends on the friend and how strong the relationship is and whether that person trusts your opinion or not. I try to keep out of the relationship buisness unless she asks me my opinion and then I tell her as nicely as I can without hurting her feelings.

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  Posted by Leggz Wed Jul 15, 2009 9:05pm PDT

  I'm always honest whenever asked for my opinion. If he is going to ask what I think, he should be prepared to hear what he doesn't want to hear. People have to understand that when they ask for an opinion, it's just that, an opinion. The final decision is always up to them.

  ~Leggz~

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  Posted by KittyKat Thu Jul 16, 2009 4:08am PDT

  I hardly ever tell my best friend about what I think of their man. Just like the only time my friends ever critize a guy I date is if I complain about them.

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