User post: From friend to girlfriend: Is it possible?

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  Posted by alesia Sun Aug 23, 2009 9:01pm PDT

  it can work me and my boyfriend were friends before we got together

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  Posted by Lacrymosa[xo] Sun Aug 23, 2009 9:44pm PDT

  Yes. It can work. :)

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  Posted by Festus Sun Aug 23, 2009 10:06pm PDT

  It works very well.I was afriend to a lady for two good years, then became a girl friend and believe it, she is now my beloved wife in the house.

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  Posted by Court Sun Aug 23, 2009 10:39pm PDT

  Yes, it can work! My b/f and I were friends for about 3 years before we got together. It's been a little over a year now, and I couldn't be happier.

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  Posted by RJ Sun Aug 23, 2009 11:20pm PDT

  It worked for me and I've been dating my partner for almost 5 years. The only thing that concerns me about your story is the former friends with benefits thing. That might complicate issues just because there's a disjointed history there. But I'd say, if you want to try it and he does too, give a relationship a shot. If it works out, it's really worth it.

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  Posted by 30DollarDateNight.com Sun Aug 23, 2009 11:44pm PDT

  My husband and I started exactly the same way - friends, and then FWB for about 10 months. We kept saying we would stop, for the sake of the friendship, but somehow always ended up in each others' beds again...

  One day, I turned to him and said "You know, even if we keep telling ourselves this is nothing more than sex, if we were to stop right now, or if one of us found someone else, it would feel like a break up... so we're either going to have a break up at some stage or we're just going to be together forever!"

  He freaked out and had to think about it for a few weeks, but then came back and said that I was completely right and we should give it a go.

  Four years later and we've just gotten married in March! Living proof that it can happen!

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  Posted by The World Mon Aug 24, 2009 12:18am PDT

  I think whatever you decide to do you just remember to follow your heart. Yeah it sounds cheesy but its nothing but the truth. You have been friends with him and you have gotten close. Me and my girlfriends have this rule. It goes if you get to close to the guy and become friends before you start dating, there is a chance that you may have crossed the friend line and its nothing but a friendship from there. However, if he is a shy guy, he might not know that you want to be more or might not want to tell you how he feels about you. It sounds like you are close but that there is just a tiny bit of room to wiggle. I say take the chance and see what he thinks. If you don't you might live to regret it. Plus opposites do attract. Good luck!

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  Posted by Julia Mon Aug 24, 2009 12:52am PDT

  He seems to be very interested in "hooking up" but not dating you. You wanted a relationship with him, he did not want one with you. He did not want a relationship "at the time" but you later said that this is "the first time in over a year that we're both single at the same time." He clearly did not have any qualms about dating other people who were not you.

  If he is a very conservative person, it seems strange to me that he is interested in treating you like a booty call.

  I know it may seem harsh, but what they say is true - he probably just isn't interested. When men say that they "don't want to be in a relationship right now" it means they don't really like you all that much. Maybe they like you enough to fool around on occasion after a few too many but that is about it. He's single now, he doesn't have anyone that he IS interested, so yes, he would love to hang out with you, and hook up with you NOW..... until he meets someone else that he does want to date.

  Can friends eventually start dating? Yes. That is how my relationship started. Will that happen with your "friend"? Probably not. Good luck in finding a great guy that isn't going to play with your emotions and will treat you right (not like a booty call).

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  Posted by Sidus Mon Aug 24, 2009 2:02am PDT

  Tigress, situations like urs haunts many of us as well. wat i would tell u is dat u should have faith n stay positive. it is very much possible to go through dis transformation from a friend to girlfriend. u gotta stay positive n put urself out there so u can get wat u want. remember, opportunity does not knock anymore...it honks and then leaves if you dont take da offer. u never kno wats possible or impossible until u test it out urself rite? good luck to u b(-_^)

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  Posted by Carol Mon Aug 24, 2009 2:23am PDT

  Yes! I think this would make the relationship a lot stronger if you started out as friends first.

  Good luck!

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