On the radio this morning, a topic came up on whether a man who
cheats on his wife really love them? Both sides had valid
points. Guys were saying sex outside the marriage is simply a
physical thing, a release so to speak, nothing intimate about it,
no emotional connection involved, as long as you hide it well, you
should be okay.
Women were saying that if he truly loved his wife it just
wouldn't happen period no matter the lust he felt, or the
temptation thrown his way, for him to cheat on her meant he really
didn't care.
My personal opinion is yes, a man can love his wife yet get pleased
sexually elsewhere besides home. Love isn't the problem
here, respect is. I feel that once you decide to propose and
get married, you should understand the responsibilities that come
along with that, especially fighting temptation. You CHOSE to
take your relationship to the next level, she said yes with full
faith and trust in you, most women do take those vows
seriously. Though to guys sex with someone else may not mean
anything, they love their spouse to death and the last thing they
want is to lose their family, to the woman thats a pain thats very
hard to take. You didn't respect her enough to avoid the
one thing that is a sure relationship ender. Mind you, in
most cases the women find out either by the mans actions, or
someone else, the last thing you'd want is her finding out by
someone else telling her or bringing it to her attention, now not
only is she being cheated on but also humiliated because others
around her know but she doesn't. It's even worse when
you have children because it shows lack of respect for your
family life as a whole. It's like your saying you were willing
to risk all of that just for a simple relief that you could have
gotten at home. Or even worse such as in the
McNair case, the wife finding out AFTER he dies!!! How do you
get through something like that?! You can't ask why, your hurt,
angry, disappointed, here it is he's dead but your left with
the questions not just from yourself but the kids and everyone
else! How do you get through those emotions, anger, hate, love,
hurt you name it! Wow I couldn't imagine.
I always tell people simply because you love someone is
not enough of a reason to get married and start a family, both
people have to be mentally and physically prepared for such an
undertaking, it takes a great deal of maturity, compromise and
sacrifice. No relationship is easy but with the right amount
of understanding and communication it can be made less hard.
Understand that issues that you had before marriage will not go
away simply because your married, if your future husband is a
partyer flirt, etc, that will NOT go away with marriage. If
your future wife is insecure, jealous etc...that will not go away
with marriage. If two people are serious about making that
step then certain things will start to wain before hand so that
they can go into the relationship with a clear mind and work on it
together. Unfortunately that rarely happens. I
can't tell you how many weddings I've been too for friends,
families and co workers where I'm saying to myself
'goodness these people should not be getting married!' But
to each it's own, where the delusion that once you get married
all problems stop come from is beyond me lol.
So ladies I want to hear your take on this?
Guys I want to really hear your opinions as well. In fact I want to
hear how it would be taken if the shoe was on the other foot, what
would you do if you found out your wife whom never gave you an
inkling of a clue as to her 'dipping' out on you, was
cheating on you? Would you accept the it didn't mean anything
reasoning? How would you take it if it came from your friends or
peers? Would you leave or would you stay? If you stayed, how would
it affect your trust and relationship as a whole, could you still
look at her the same?
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