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Saturday, November 28, 2009

User post: Boob Job or No Boob Job??


Okay, here is my problem.  I have always been a chesty gal (36D since I was 17) and I am now 35 and have three children 4, 6 & 7.  Well, I told my husband a long time ago that I would like to have corrective surgery on my boobs because as many of you woman out there know, boobs just do not have the firmness as they do before kids.

Well, the day has come and my husband told me that we are ready financially for me to have the boob job so I had my first consultation today.  I told the doctor that I like my size and do not want to change that one bit so he suggested that I have a small implant while also having a breast lift.  He said this would give me my firmness back while also leaving me the same size.

Soooooo, here's where I pause.  I'm really not sure if I want implants but at the same time, if I only get a breast lift, I will be smaller than the size I have grown so use. 

What do you think?  Should I get the lift and implant or should I just forget the whole thing?  Women, are you happy with how your breast look after the fact of having kids?  Men, how do you feel about the way your wife’s breasts look since she has had children?  Would you like her to do something to improve the way they look or would you prefer her to stay natural? 

Now remember, I am only doing this for myself and no one else.

I'm stuck on this one.  I really wanted to have them improved but now I'm not sure to what extent I want to go to in order to achieve this.

Any advice?
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  • 88Gypsy's Avatar
    Posted by 88Gypsy Mon Jul 20, 2009 2:30pm PDT

    Hey Jean-

    I did this very thing after my last child was born. Went to the surgeon with a picture form before I had children and said - Put them back. And he did. It was fantastic.

    I got a small implant and a lift - the implant is saline rather than silicone (I felt safer that way) and it feels fine because I had enough breast tissue that you don't feel the implant. I had this done years ago and it's still held up beautifully.

    Best of luck.

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  • Jean's Avatar
    Posted by Jean Mon Jul 20, 2009 2:44pm PDT

    Hey 88,

    Thank you for your comment. It is so nice to hear from someone that has gone through this and is happy with the results. I was afraid that they wouldn't feel real with the implants (you always hear that when women go from an A to a C etc) I still want to feel real so that is great news. Thanks again for your comments. =)

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  • mike d's Avatar
    Posted by mike d Mon Jul 20, 2009 2:50pm PDT

    I say, "do what makes you feel most comfortable."

    If your husband loves you the way that you are, and you are comfortable in your own skin, then why change?

    Again, do what is right for you.

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  • Donna's Avatar
    Posted by Donna Mon Jul 20, 2009 2:55pm PDT

    Hi i have also thought of a lift i am a 36 DD myself and I got one child he is 8. But i think it would be safe and ok. My sister had implants 2 yrs ago and is very pleased and has not had any problems. If you feel ok i say go for it.

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  • Dubs's Avatar
    Posted by Dubs Mon Jul 20, 2009 3:17pm PDT

    Mike D beat me to it.

    I'm not usually one for supporting plastic surgery but if it comes to my SO's body I can only give her so much input by letting her know I would support whatever she chose. She doesn't have to change for me...if she wants the change for her own self esteem, well I can only go so far. Her body, her choice.

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  • tressa's Avatar
    Posted by tressa Mon Jul 20, 2009 3:39pm PDT

    Glad you are taking time to make the right decision. You'll be living a long time with this decision so make sure it's something that makes you comfortable day in and day out. Good luck!

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  • EMILY's Avatar
    Posted by EMILY Mon Jul 20, 2009 3:39pm PDT

    Has anyone had losss of nipple sensitivity? I'd love my youthfull look back, but i'm not willing to lose anything for it.

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  • XYZ's Avatar
    Posted by XYZ Mon Jul 20, 2009 4:34pm PDT

    I think it depends a lot on the size and shape of the rest of your body. There is a big difference in the appearance of a woman who is a 36DD and who is 5'7" tall and 127 pounds and a woman who is 5'2" tall, weighing in at 155. Both ladies could be a 36DD but for different reason. If you are on the heavier side, I would think that smaller breasts will look out of proportion with the rest of your body and that you should conisder a small implant to help "balance" your shape. If, however, you are of a thinner frame, I would think that just getting the lift without implants would make your breasts higher, firmer, slightly smaller and that would better suit a woman with a thinner frame.

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  • XYZ's Avatar
    Posted by XYZ Mon Jul 20, 2009 4:37pm PDT

    Speaking of sensitivity (as EMILY posted) I have heard of a few people who lost sensitivity. Also, I have a few friends who are smokers and they healed horribly. They have ugly scars encircling their nipples and on other cut areas. All because they smoke and that makes it harder for them to heal. Dressed, their boobs look great, but they both told me that they feel like freaks if they are naked..they hate their scars.

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  • tamara's Avatar
    Posted by tamara Mon Jul 20, 2009 4:39pm PDT

    I have always headed up the itty bitty commity till I had my kids! LOL I have a pair a gurlz now! I always felt too small and if I could get firmer and bigger I would. I dont think I would get implants tho!

    Ultimatly the choice is yours! You know what will make you happy! Great post JEAN!

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