UGH! Stupid parents!!

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  Posted by *devotion72 Thu Oct 29, 2009 5:25am PDT

  Why don't you have him come over and meet the parents. I know parents can act all crazy at times but they seemed concerned about you.

  Give them the benifit of the doubt and show them that he really cares about you. As far as the phone goes; sorry I can't help you there. All I can say is talk to them not argue but really listent to why they won't let you be with him.

  I am a mother of 4 teens and we talk about alot of things. They open up to me or their siblings too but most of times they come to me for advice.

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  Posted by Lara Thu Oct 29, 2009 6:05am PDT

  Ask yourself these questions:

  Do my parents love me?

  If so, why are they requesting this?

  What can I do/say to explain how I feel?

  On top of those questions I want you to really think about. Also know that when you are 18 you might still have to live by their rules if you are in their house. I'm going to take a guess and say that maybe they are fearful for your physical or emotional well being?? I doubt they are requesting you not talk to your BF just for fun or to watch you suffer. I suggest you talk to them of have them meet Mr. Wonderful if possible and ask them why they don't want you talking to him. See if you can talk it out like adults. After all you are an adult and as long as you act like one, I'm thinking they will treat you like one.

  Good luck and God bless

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  Posted by Carolyn Thu Oct 29, 2009 6:05am PDT

  I fell in love with my hubby of 8 yrs when I was 16. He was 21 at the time. My mother absolutely did not warm up to him until just this year. He will have to prove himself worthy to your parents. It takes time, patience and the last thing to do is yell and scream and argue, because communication is all about compromise......I wish you well in your endeavors. Love makes people do crazy things, both you and your parents.

  Good Luck and be calm and patient...

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  Posted by Mrs. Carol B Thu Oct 29, 2009 6:24am PDT

  Hello N,

  I just read your previous posts and maybe they are concerned because of your track record with guys so far. If I were your mother or grand mother I'd be concerned about you too, dear. Give them the benefit of the doubt. They are not out to ruin your life or your fun. They have your best interest at heart. I can speak from experience of over 50 yrs. My counsel to young girls is to be a woman unto yourself first meaning learn how to care for yourself, support yourself both financially and emotionally first, only when you are a complete woman can you entertain the thought of sharing your life with a man and that takes time. Be strong in your own right. Remember you do not need a man to be "whole." It is nice to do things with "friends"; they don't have to be romantically connected to you. Think on these things. I wish you the best. Remember it will be your parents you come running to with tears in your eyes and your broken heart in your hands if things go badly and you will expect them to take you in unconditionally. It happens all the time...................Give them a break. Peace.

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  Posted by Rebekah Thu Oct 29, 2009 6:26am PDT

  If he has "anger issues", no matter how understandable, then your parents have a good reason to worry--they don't want to see you get hurt. Sneaking around behind their backs to see him will NOT improve the situation. Part of the issue is trust. If they can't trust you not to lie to them, how can they trust you to make the right decisions? You're almost an adult, legally speaking, but you'll always be there daughter, and they are alwasy going to worry about you. You need to have conversation with them and look for a compromise. Maybe if they had a chance to get to know him better, or if you and he were willing to have supervised dates for a while, they'd come to see the qualities in him that you like so much. Has he had counseling for his anger issues? If not, that may help, as well--and it would certainly benefit him, if he is a victim of abuse.

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  Posted by EW Thu Oct 29, 2009 9:03am PDT

  Life is not about just being with a boy/man. Life is about growth/experience/love and so much more. You are already talking marriage?! Are you serious! You need to look around you. Take your eyes of that guy for a moment and just look around you. Do you want to be tied down so early in life without experiencing yourself as a woman? Do you not see beyond the possibility of the things you can accomplish and the beauty of the world and the sense of freedom you can experience as you explore life? I dont even think your brain can acknowledge what I am trying to say and thats because you are young and naive. Your parents wont tell you this but I will. I wish you good luck in whatever you decide.

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  Posted by *GoldenGirl*™ Thu Oct 29, 2009 11:17am PDT

  If they pay the cell phone bill then NO you cannot do anything to keep them from seeing it, when you get a job and pay for one yourself and turn 18 then you can hide your bill. Cool your jets until your of age finish school and get a job and move out then, you will probably see you had it pretty easy afterall. Good Luck.

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