He finally pops the question! You're excited, overwhelmed, speechless....and as he slowly slides that ring on your finger...you realize you completely and utterly hate the entire design of the ring. I mean he chose it with every good intention that came from his heart and maybe even searched for months for what he thought would be the "perfect" ring. You don't want to make him feel bad but ever since you were younger you always imagined that perfect ring. The one ring that you'd be waiting so anxiously to receive so that you could immediately run and show off to all of your girlfriends the minute you got it! So should it really matter what kind of ring we get when that special moment comes around? Do we tell our significant other that it's just not the kind of ring we dreamed of and would perhaps like to take a little stroll down to the jewelry store to see if there is something more appealing? I mean this is a ring you're supposed to (well, hopefully) carry on your finger for the rest of your life! Should we just be happy and settle for it regardless of the type of ring it is or do we speak up to get the one we really want?
SHOULD YOU TELL HIM YOU HATE YOUR ENGAGEMENT RING?
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Posted by Tue Feb 17, 2009 10:00am PST
Report AbuseTell him...unless he is the super sensitive type...
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Posted by Sun Mar 1, 2009 12:45am PST
Report AbuseIDK, thats a hard one. It depends on what kind of person he is. If I had to tell my bf that his feelings would def be hurt and he would prob say that I'm ungrateful and act like I ruined the whole engagement. He would start acting like he can't do anything that pleases me. But I'm the type of person who would want to hear if he doesn't like somethething that he would have to wear the rest of his life.
You also have to consider his budget as well. If and when he does ask you if you like, tell him you love anything that he gives you bc you know its from the heart and you are happy that he picked it out himself but that you had another design in mind. But by all means if he's is the type that goes through life just accepting what he gets and never speaks up about his likes and dislikes then you may not want to say anything bc he may be way to sensitive to hear that and may get upset with you. Good luck and congrats!!
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Posted by Thu Apr 23, 2009 5:42am PDT
Report AbuseMy boyfriend proposed to me with a $100.00 promise ring purchased at Walmart. We are both in our mid-40's and both divorced. This wasn't the first time around for either or us, and we certainly aren't teenagers. Both of us make a very comfortable living.
I went almost a year before bringing it up, and it was the WRONG thing to do. It was the beginning of the end of our relationship.
Looking back now, it was for the best. He wasn't "the one". I wouldn't have been happy spending the rest of my life with a man like that.
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Posted by Thu Aug 13, 2009 3:12am PDT
Report AbuseDefinitely do tell him. Assuming you don't get a divorce, which I'm sure nobody is planning at that point, you are supposed to wear the ring for the rest of your life, you better be sure you love it.
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