While lying in bed with my boyfriend I grabbed his phone to play one of the games that he has on it. When I flipped it open it was a pic of another’s girls face as his screensaver. I immediately asked him who it was, and he just kind of laid there with this shocked look on his face. After noticing that I was getting really angry he told me that the phone he had was not originally his (which I knew) and that it was a pic that was in his phone from the previous owner. Thinking about it for a few seconds I realized that that has not always been on his phone so he must have saved it as his screensaver recently. I began to become even angrier because why would you put some random girl on your phone. So I got up and told him to get his stuff because I was taking him home, he tried to talk to me on the way but I didn't want to heat it. When I returned home I had a text from him saying he was sorry and that he understood if I didn't want to talk to him at the moment. I replied that it was over cause I did not trust what he was saying and that I thought he was cheating. A couple texts down the line he goes on to tell me that......... The pic he had is of a girl that he did not know, that he just copied and pasted it off some random girls MySpace. He went on to tell me that he has some problem with porn and that he has lots of pic from girls MySpace saved on his computer and phone and that he uses those pics to "let himself go". Now I’m not sure if I believe that because the pic he had on his phone was not of some pretty girl or of any body part that would turn a guy on it was just a regular girl’s face. Not something that you would see on some guy’s phone or something that I would think that you would get off on, I mean considering the type of pics that you could find on MySpace. I feel that there are girls on there who look like models with body’s that beyonce would kill for but this girl just looked like nothing special. He wants to talk to me and try to work things out but I don’t know what to do or if I believe she is who she says he is. Help me and tell me what you think.
Should i worry about her. HELP!!!!!!!!
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Posted by Sat Sep 19, 2009 1:47am PDT
Report Abusedid u really check how the girl look like?it might be you, he only had it airbrushed?
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Posted by Sat Sep 19, 2009 2:08am PDT
Report AbuseYes sis, what do you think? He's to blame; like..how are you suppose to trust him from now on? I wouldn't give him a second chance; not in a billion years. Probably he has said the truth in the end, but that's not an excuse for lying to you. He keeps pics of other girls on his cellphone and on his computer?? Did I hear it right? Let them "comfort" him, he's not worth it.
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Posted by Sat Sep 19, 2009 2:15am PDT
Report Abusemaybe that is a pic of a girl he once dated and cant seem to get over her. it could also be one that he got off the internet for his own pleasure, he is embarresed because his fetish is to like normal/ugly girls, this is not surprising as men all have different preferences. allow him another chance and give him the benefit of the doubt, dont hang this over his head or the relationship will definately get worse and will then be a waste of time. let him take a pic of you to put as his screensaver. good luck
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Posted by Sat Sep 19, 2009 2:35am PDT
Report AbuseHoney im so sorry you found that. About two months ago I found a chick sucking her own titty on my boy friends phone! I know how it feels to question if you can trust him. He tried to say he didnt know who the girl was and that someone else put it on his phone too. He doesnt even let me near his phone now and keeps it in his truck every day. We just broke up recently because I got upset and locked him out of the house because he wouldnt let me go through his phone again. Now to me that is very very very shady! Its been a week and I am wondering why and what it is that he is hiding from me. Hmm, anyways your boyfriend did tell you what he is doing and that he needs pics like that to get off or whatever. I have found alot of other things on my boyfriends phone that I dont think should have been on there. Not only pics & videos but inappropriate texts aswell. Maybe you need to talk to him and find out if a few sexy pics of you mite work for him. Or if you find you are a jelous person or feel you just cant trust him anymore then let him go. Im trying to do the same now. Good Luck
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Posted by Sat Sep 19, 2009 2:54am PDT
Report Abuse''Problems with porn'' sounds like it could mean he has some sort of addiction to it perhaps? If that's the case, it would be very hard for him to ''go without'' that type of thing, for any reason. If he doesn't have a valid reason, he will make one up. I've seen a close friend deal with her ex who had problems exactly like this, and another friend who's marriage was falling apart because of it. Now that he sees you don't approve at all of this sort of thing, and have concern about it, if you tried to get back together, you'd only worry about what he'd be hiding from you, that you might stumble upon next time you found something. And he would definately be hiding it. It's not worth risking, you'd never have peace of mind after that, and what kind of relationship would do that to a person, if it really was meant to be? It's understandable, that you would feel since he's supposed to have been with you, why would he need a picture of some girl he's NOT with, to get what he feels he needs? Don't try to sell yourself short, as is common reaction to this, and try to find what way you think you'd might not be good enough/enough for him. It's not you, it truly is him. He had a real girl right in front of him, and not just some picture! Yet look at the importance of the latter, over what he actually HAD! He lied twice to you, before a better truth came out. If those pictures are what he wants, let him have them, while you move onto better things. I wouldn't worry about that other girl/girls. Some of the photos on myspace are as distasteful as the people who posted them, so not worth your time.
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Posted by Sat Sep 19, 2009 2:56am PDT
Report AbuseTo the above poster: why would anyone want to give sexy pics to someone who has proven to be untrustworthy in the first place? So they can magically appear on the internet and become a problem at some later point in time? It's cliche yes. But cliches become cliche for a reason.
And to the original poster: if he's being shady and deceitful why would you want to allow him to continue doing so? If he's not going to level with you, you don't want to turn around and lower your standards because he has a "problem". Even If it's a plain picture it obviously carries some sort of mental value or he wouldn't have it on his phone - if it was used wouldn't the old stuff have been deleted if only to make room for new items on the phone? And if it's not a sister or a cousin or some other family member he should at least be able to pony up and come clean.
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Posted by Sat Sep 19, 2009 4:15am PDT
Report AbuseYour first instinct was the right one and I applaud you for doing what you did! This guy is trying to weasle his way out of a tight spot. Your too smart for him and at that moment laying in bed in shock he realized it "hes an idiot". Now, what you do is your own back ground investigation find out who this girl is ask around look on myspace whatever you have to do. If you have to store it in your head and don't forget about this one, if you decide to give him a chance. This boy doesn't have a problem with downloading random girls and letting him self go! He has a problem with lying he must of watch a Lifetime movie with his momma one day because a guy on one of those had a problem with downloading random girls and doing that. Keep your head up and investigate that way when you find out the truth it may not make you feel better but at least you will know the truth-hes playin you! Take care of yourself and really I am proud of you for standing up for yourself and taking his butt home! This is what happen to me-I was laying in bed with my boyfriend at the time and his phone rang, he doesn't answer it after I ask who it was, he said oh just one of the guys at 11:45 at night! The guy he said it was I already had seen earlier that day and was goin with his girlfriend out of town, it was no more that guy than the man on the moon! So I waited till he fell asleep looked at his phone and it was a girl she left a message too-wanted to let him know she just got back into town and wanted to know if he wants to get together tonight, nothing happens after 11:45 unless your doin it. I woke his butt up and told him too take me home, best decision I ever made with him! First instinct and investigative work you have to look out for number #1 and that number #1 is you in this case!
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Posted by Sat Sep 19, 2009 5:49am PDT
Report AbuseBeen there-Done that and after 11 yrs of marriage. Hiding the phone, leaving it in the truck, always in the back pocket,not answering it, etc. TRUST ME--------DUMP HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Posted by Sat Sep 19, 2009 6:33am PDT
Report AbuseDump him. My ex carried a picture of his old girlfriend around in his wallet. She founda naked women in his bed and dumped him years ago. He couldnt get past it.
Later I found that he spent 1000 on professional photos of her while we were together. Eventhough he was to cheap to buy me a decent XMAS gift.
Dump him. The guys a liar. Move on
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