If you have been in a serious relationship for five or
more years with someone and you constantly find out they have
been chatting with other women online, would you be angry? Would
you break it off with them after constantly asking them to
stop? If they used Yahoo Messenger and kept adding
"friends" who are women and typical messages say things
like "I want to wrap your legs around my neck" or
"you look so good and sexy" or "I'd love to see
you naked", etc...would you be furious with them?
I think it is wrong to flirt that heavily with anyone else, no
matter what. I think it's emotionally draining them so that
when you come along, they don't pay as much attention to you.
Even with an incredible sexual relationship with this person, you
wonder why they feel the need to constantly look and flirt with
others online.
I hope to hear from both men and women on this subject because it
seems like the answers will be different. Men might say that if
they aren't physically doing anything, there's nothing
wrong with it. Many women might say it's emotional cheating and
can lead to physical cheating if they were to meet. The lies about
it are hurtful enough, but seeing what was actually said to these
online skanks is very heartbreaking. If you are in love with
someone and you tell them what hurts you, wouldn't they stop
doing that if they knew it bothered you? What do you think and what
would you do?
Online chatting while in a serious relationship?
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Posted by Mon Jul 20, 2009 6:02am PDT
Report AbuseHeck no!He would be a gone.If he wants to wrap her legs around his then go do it.I would not stay.That is disrespcting me and i will not have it.
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Posted by Mon Jul 20, 2009 8:35am PDT
Report AbuseI did that once, and my wife found out. Was furious as hell with me. I agreed to stop chatting with this woman online, and it hasn't happened since. It's been 6 months since it happened, and still working it out. I still talk dirty...but only to my wife now.
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Posted by Mon Jul 20, 2009 10:18pm PDT
Report AbuseTHANKS FOR YOUR MESSAGE, BUT THIS IS ME. NOT OF THE COMPUTER NORM....SORRY .I USE CAPS, CAUSE I LIKE THEM....NOT YELLING......
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Posted by Tue Jul 21, 2009 2:28am PDT
Report AbuseYou may like all caps, but it is considered YELLING by anyone on here. Why not just respect others and lay off the CAPS!? Or maybe you just don't care about anyone else?
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Posted by Tue Jul 21, 2009 7:44am PDT
Report AbuseI'M IN TAHT SITUATION NOW. ME AND MY BOYFRIEND BEEN TOGETHER FOR 3 YEARS AND I FOUND OUT HE BE ON SINGLES.NET AND 4 OTHER DATING SITES. I ASKED HIM ABOUT IT AND HE SAID HE WAS BORED. I TRIED TO LET IT GO BUT HE KEEPS ON DOING IT. I BROKE UP WITH HIM BECAUSE HE'S SHOWING ME THAT THE DATING SITE COMES BEFORE ME AND MY FEELINGS.
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Posted by Wed Sep 2, 2009 1:21pm PDT
Report Abusesame problem but he was on fling.com,I don't trust him anymore.He is also addicted to porn/sex etc.it is a sign of disrespect and i can't take it anymore
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Posted by Fri Oct 9, 2009 8:09am PDT
Report Abuseyep, ive been in that situation before, he was talking that way to an ex, at first i dumped him but he apologized and swore it would never happen again, i forgave him, and told him if he wanted to talk to her that was fine, but no more dirty talking. (by the way, i warned her as well that she was not to instigate that behavior either or they would BOTH be to blame for the end of the relationship.) then one day i was gone and when i came home he had cleared the computer history, so i signed into his messenger and her had deleted the archive (only hers) on his messenger so i knew something was up. i saw that she was online so i started messaging her like i was him and she told me everything they had talked about, telling me how he said he wanted to be with her, and he missed her and why couldnt she move in with him instead of me. so at the end i thanked her for the information and told her who she had really been talking to, she had nothing to say at first. then after about 10 minutes she called me and blamed everything on him and begged me not to kick her butt. i confronted him and he blamed it all on her and i told him i didn't care i had warned him. and again he begged me not to leave and swore he'd never do it again, and all that jazz he said he loved me more than anything and would do anything to make things better. i told him if he loved me that much why would he need to talk to anyone else that way and obviously loving me wasnt enough for him and i walked away. (i was also pregnant with his child at this time) i later found out he was also a member of fling.com too. u think i did the right thing?? i do.
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