Is Your Relationship Headed For A Dead End?

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  Posted by Traeya Wed Mar 18, 2009 12:11pm PDT

  im doin just fine with mine i have not a care in the world about mi relationship.why stress about the little things really.im n love and lovin it whats so wrng with that.Signd A Gurl N Love

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  Posted by TLWGal Wed Mar 18, 2009 1:18pm PDT

  what's a "jailbreak"?

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  Posted by KittyKat Thu Mar 19, 2009 4:29am PDT

  I'm lucky my relationship is almost perfect but not quite or I'd hate it.

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  Posted by Matty Thu Mar 19, 2009 5:54am PDT

  So what happens if you fall in to most of the catagories? And what is the solution to make things work out? Can't very well say,"ok we've been married for 10 years, have 2 kids but i see we're just not compatible, the end"

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  Posted by Charitie Thu Mar 19, 2009 6:06am PDT

  i was friends with a guy because my husband just passed so i was emotionally unavailable. he wanted more i think. he said we were freinds with benifits and i was happy with that. no he has moved on and is living with a an 18 year old. what am i to do? did i mess everything up?

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  Posted by Jerry Thu Mar 19, 2009 6:56am PDT

  That's quite a list. Many of these have fit the two marriages I've had in my life. Sad but true. I've stayed away from serious relationships for a while now, but am slowly wading back in. After reviewing the above list, I find that I may actually be on the right track this time.

  None of the above fit my current scenario. With that being said, I still will not "Rush In". We,as individuals, are responsible for our relationships. Bad choices will not correct themselves. Be wary but pray for guidance and usually you'll get the right answer. GOOD LUCK ALL

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  Posted by Carina Thu Mar 19, 2009 1:39pm PDT

  I truly believe that when your eyes are finally looking at reality just make sure that they stay open and focused. I was in the same shoes and let me tell you all something. This man has a body to die for he is charming he works out well the whole nine yards, HOWEVER I have to admit now even though I still love him, what sense does it make to have a body to die for but if the brain doesn't fit well ..IT'S USELESS!!!. Took a while for me to recognize it (1 year) but that's love. Now he wants to come back which makes it a rebound. No can do, sorry I know that a lot of you out there give the man a second chance, well I give him 1 before I leave for good and he better make good use of that chance because ones I'm gone, there will be no second chance. I love myself too and to me that comes first!!

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  Posted by Laurel H Thu Mar 19, 2009 2:22pm PDT

  Trust is the most important issue to me. Right now it isn't about money or possessions. Of course having enough money would be nice. We don't argue about money or anything else because we always share. I have jumped from one relationship to another most of my life. I have wasted time dealing with my own self destructive behavior and relationships that also destroyed my trust in men. Deception and betrayal play a major part in destroying relationships. I for one don't ever want to experience that again. I have had to be patient in getting what I want.

  I've been given a few chances to stay in the relationship I'm in right now. I'm sure other men would have run from it, but not my man. He's stayed by me in the most difficult of times, and shown a love to me I could never walk away from. We're older, wiser, and don't have a lot of time left to start over again. We are hanging on to see where it's going to go.

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  Posted by Celia Thu Mar 19, 2009 3:37pm PDT

  Me and my boyfriend just broke up last weekend because he had a bad marriage and he won't open up his heart to anyone because of that ( he's been divorced for 5 yrs now). We've been 'dating' (we get to see each other once a week)if you can call it that for a year now, and I've had enough. I think I love him, though, that's why I laid my heart on the line and got shot down (first time for me). I'm a pisces and I need more attention than just once a week, but he's not willing to leave himself vulnerable for hurt, so I guess I need to move on -- any input from anyone?

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  Posted by Dandith Thu Mar 19, 2009 8:00pm PDT

  SA LAHAT NG NAKAKAINTINDI SA AKIN: PLS GIVE ME SOME ADVISE.

  i have a boyfriend (kc sabi nya kmi pa daw). Almost 3 yrs na kmi this coming June. Last 2 yrs, naging ok nman relationship namin. Pareho kaming satisfied and happy kun ano man ang meron kmi. Until.. last Jan 2009, (bad luck for a new year) bigla syang nanlamig sa akin. So I ask him ano problema.. lagi lang nyang sinasabi sa akin na wala daw pero nararamdaman kong something is fishy talaga. Hanggang sa nalaman kong my iba syang nililigawan. Syampre nagalit at nagtampo ako. But still, pinatawd at inunawa ko sya. Sabi ko nalng sa sarili ko na isa lang to sa mga pagsubok namin. Di ko naman kc pwedeng i give up ko nalng basta2 ang lahat dahil lng dun. Mabait at mapagmahal namn sya sa akin. In fact, para ko na din syang Ama, kapatid, at lahat2 na. Tintulungan nya ako sa lahat2. Nagulat nalng ako ng past few days bigla na lamng syang nag decide na cool off nalng daw muna. Kc talang ayaw nya akong masaktan. Kaya tinanong ko sya kung mahal ba nya ang girl.. sabi namn nya hindi daw. Gusto lng daw nya i explore ang life nya. My hinahanap daw sya ng kung ano. Kya daw iggive up nya ako para di daw ako masktan kuna ano man ang kahihinatnan ng lahat. Naiintindihan ko namn sya kaya nga pumayag akong 2 kaming gf nya. huhuh. kya lng lagi nlng akong nsasaktan kc khit anong gawin kong pagmamahal sa knya parang wala din. Lagi ko nalng nahuhuli na ngasisinungaling sya sa akin. Sabi nya kailangan daw nyang magsinungaling para di ako masaskta. Feeling ko wala na tlaga kming paga asa na maging ok ulit. Naiinis ako kc mahal ko parin sya. Ano gagawin ko? Di ko naman maibaling ang pansin ko sa iba kc ala namn akong hilig sa mga gimik, barkada, o kung ano pa man. Lagi na nga lang akong nsa bahy. Pinipilit kong mag apply ng trabaho para malibang naman ako pero talagang kinukulit ako ng mga ala ala nya. Pls, pukpukin nyo ulo ko para matauhan naman ang puso ko.. dahan2 lang sa pagpuk2 ha at bka magka brain damage naman ao nyan.. Hehehh thanks sa alhat ng nakakaintindi at magbibigay payo sa akin. Just send your advise to my email add dd_ganda@yahoo.com... God bless and Mabuhay!

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