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Thursday, November 26, 2009

IS THIS NORMAL?

SO MY BOYFRIEND AND I MET A FEW MONTHS AGO AND AFTER A WEEK HAD SEX. WE DECIDED TO STAY FRIENDS AND GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER AND NOW WE ARE LIVING TOGETHER AS A COUPLE. WE HAVENT HAD SEX SINCE THAT ONE TIME. WE SLEEP SEPARATELY I IN MY ROOM AND HIM ON THE COUCH. I WANT SEX BUT HE DOESNT SEEM INTERESTED. IVE MENTIONED IT TO HIM BUT HE SAYS ITS FROM STRESS DUE TO BILLS. WELL NOW HE SAYS HES NOT STRESSED OUT BUT STILL NO NOOKIE....WHAT AM I DOING WRONG OR IS IT EVEN ME? I KNOW HES NOT CHEATING AND HE RECENTLY HAD COLON CANCER. IT WAS MY IDEA TO STAY FRIENDS AND WE GOT THIS PLACE TOGETHER. WE GO ON DATES AND THERE IS CHEMISTRY BUT JUST NOT SEXUAL. WE DO LOVE EACH OTHER AND WEVE ONLY BEEN LIVING TOGETHER A MONTH. THE SEPARATE ROOMS IS BECAUSE HE HAS BACK ISSUES AND SLEEPING ON THE COUCH ACTUALLY HELPS. IM AT A LOSS  PLEASE HELP.
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  • stop's Avatar
    Posted by stop Tue Dec 2, 2008 1:08pm PST

    not normal (in my book) unless ur not a couple..So do what's in ur Heart 3---------------LOL

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  • PEACHES's Avatar
    Posted by PEACHES Tue Dec 2, 2008 1:09pm PST

    -- WELL SORRY TO BURST YOUR BUBBLE BUT

    IT KINDA SEEMS LIKE HE MIGHT BE GETTIN "NOOKIE" ELSE WHERE?

    IT COULD BE A POSSIBILITY. IF THATS THE CASE YOU NEED TO STEP UP AND KICK HIM OUT YOUR HOUSE.... ISNT IT WEIRD THAT HE WONT SLEEP IN THE SAME BED WITH YOU? HE COULD JUST BE USING YOU FOR SHELTER.

    THINK ABOUT IT.

    BEST OF LUCK TO YOU.

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  • ajgirliegirl's Avatar
    Posted by ajgirliegirl Tue Dec 2, 2008 1:12pm PST

    OK SO I DONT THINK HES CHEATING BECAUSE WE WORK THE SAME HOURS AND WE GET HOME AT THE SAME TIME. HE DOESNT GET TURNED ON AT ALL WITH ANY KIND OF STIMULATION. I TEASE AND HE TEASES BACK BUT HE STILL ISNT INTERESTED.

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    Posted by __A_YAHOO_USER__ Tue Dec 2, 2008 1:12pm PST

    Wow you did it once, moved him in and now its sexless? well kick his butt out if he dont put out, he may have been only look for a place to stay... way too soon to have moved in with each other..

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  • RyneishaB_05's Avatar
    Posted by RyneishaB_05 Tue Dec 2, 2008 1:13pm PST

    Its not you and you should get out as soon as possible. No I dont think thats normal that sounds really weird, he's probably getting it from someone else. Always listen to your first mind, your gut is telling you something isnt right and your probably right.

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  • Mag's Avatar
    Posted by Mag Tue Dec 2, 2008 1:18pm PST

    was he sleeping on your couch before sex? was the being friend's thing his idea or your's?

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  • Siera's Avatar
    Posted by Siera Tue Dec 2, 2008 1:19pm PST

    hmm... I really couldn't say. Maybe you could attempt to get close to him. Go out on a date or two. If this doesn't work then you go RAMBO and see look through his stuff and see if he's into another woman. Try everything you can before you try "rambo" because if he catches you he's going to be pissed.

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    Posted by Siera Tue Dec 2, 2008 1:20pm PST

    hmm... I really couldn't say. Maybe you could attempt to get close to him. Go out on a date or two. If this doesn't work then you go RAMBO and see look through his stuff and see if he's into another woman. Try everything you can before you try "rambo" because if he catches you he's going to be pissed.

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  • Jeffrey D's Avatar
    Posted by Jeffrey D Tue Dec 2, 2008 1:21pm PST

    Sweet heart if he is the average healthy adult male he wants sex and if he isn't getting it from you he is getting it some where else.He is using you dump him like the trash

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  • casy's Avatar
    Posted by casy Tue Dec 2, 2008 1:35pm PST

    No its NOT NORMAL. Kick him out and move on with your life. That happened to my girl friend ...He moved in and sex dropped off. She asked whats up. He said ...It just isn't that big of a deal to him. [Or so he said] Any way she had him leave. And Now she has a great guy and a great sex life. And there going on 8 years now. So I say KICK HIM OUT.

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