Do you have a difficult time having an orgasm? Many women have to really work at having an orgasm and I am going to make a few suggestions here that can help you or your female partner have one more easily.
I have facilitated about 650 pleasure parties in the past 5 years and it seems to me that women fall into one of three categories:
1. Almost never have an orgasm.
2. Can have an orgasm without much focus or concentration..
3. Can have an orgasm but has to really give it quite a bit of concentration and focus.
So let's address the first group - the women that almost never have an orgasm or that have not had their first orgasm. This group of women that can benefit the most from a very simple sex toy like the Silver Bullet or the Slender Sensations. These are both very inexpensive and discreet toys which are pretty benign and not very intimidating for a person who is new to sex toys. (You can also reference my Yahoo blog where I contributed an article called "13 Ways to Use the Silver Bullet.")
One of these very inexpensive sex toys are almost a guaranteed orgasm. I say "almost" because for women who take anti depressants, there is no guarantee. But, if you do not take anti depressants, the silver bullet is a great way to teach yourself to have an orgasm. Just put it directly on your clitoris and apply as much pressure as you like. Some women prefer a lighter touch when it comes to a vibrating sex toy...and others prefer more manipulation and pressure on the clitoris. Each of us is different and we all have to find what works for us.
The bullet or the pen like toy, the Slender Sensations, can give a woman very DIRECT vibration and a very small area and when applied against our clitoris which is made of 8,000 nerve endings - it's pretty much a slam dunk. Spend some quality time ALONE with the vibrator and find out what you like. You need to be disciplined and determined and I promise you, it will change your life once you figure out how to use the toy in a way that your body responds to. Practice makes perfect and the more you give yourself an orgasm on your own, the easier it will be for you to have one with a partner later. PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE.
The second type of woman seems to be the girls who can have one, but everything needs to be perfect for them to have one. These women seem to need alot of things "just so" in order to tune out their mental laundry list of things they feel like they need to do. These are the women thinking about things like " i really need to unload the dishwasher and put the clothese in the dryer." They have difficulty shutting out the kids, the t.v. or whatever else is going on in their home. They have a great time being intimate with their partners, but to actually have an orgasm during their play time, they need the kids to be at Gradmas or to be out on a date night in a hotel...or in another country.
(This is where men have it good. You give them any teeny tiny bit of sexual attention and they can just shut it all out. Once some blood flow starts heading towards the penis, their mental laundry list just goes on hold until after their orgasm.)
For you women, I want to suggest any of the toys above, but you ladies might want to add in some other fun Sensual Products which help you relax and that improve your foreplay experience. I promise you, if you ask your husband to give you an "erotic massage" he will suddenly find the energy to give you that massage. Something about adding in the word "erotic" seems to perk them right up.
You could try some edible massage oil in vanilla flavor. (You will be so impressed at how good this oil tastes and smells. Nothing phony or fake tasting here. Just yummy light vanilla flavor.) Have him rub your feet, your breasts, your fanny or your entire body with this edible oil and then have him follow along with his tongue! Your whole body will taste like vanilla.
Or add some edible, organic Honey Dust to your bedside night stand so he can tickle and tantalize you with the lovely feather duster and this delicious edible honey powder. It smells great, feels great and will relax you and transport you to somewhere other then your bedroom. Just smelling it will help you to relax. You can also out it on your mattress, sheets, pillows and every where else...sleep in it and wallow around in it to make your entire body taste and smell delish!
And, lastly, for those of you who can just snap them off like a guy....well, everything else on our website is for you! http://www.BlissConnection.com You are the girls who might enjoy the Pearl Rabbit which gives you penetration, clitoral stimulation and the rotating pearls which feel great at the vaginal entrance. (Where we have another concentration of nerve endings.)
Or, you might enjoy something a bit naughtier like our G Spot toy called the Waterproof Lucid Dream for yummy G Spot orgasms. Or how about some nipple vibration from our vibrating nipple clamps.
You can also check out MY favorite sex toy ever which is 5 speed vibrating bullet to mix it up with lots of tempo, escallations, and interesing vibration patterns that will take most any "type" of girl over the top every time!
The great news is that pretty much every "type" of girl can become the last type of girl I mentioned her. Seriously, practice makes perfect. The more often you have an orgasm, the better you get at it. Plus, what fun practice, right?
Best of luck and let us know how your practice goes!
Blissfully,
Chrystal, Chief Toy Officer & Pleasure Coach
http://www.BlissConnection.com
Tel: 408-826-9087
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