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Wednesday, November 25, 2009

How do you define "sex"?

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Remember when former President Bill Clinton said oral sex wasn't sex? South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford recently admit that he "crossed lines" with women other than his wife and the Argentine mistress, but "didn't cross the sex line." So what exactly does that entail?

The definition of sex has never been totally clear, and with indefinite terms like "hooking up" the lines are increasingly blurred. While some classify any type of foreplay using sexual parts as "sex," others will only label intercourse with actual penetration as "sex." But would this include anal sex or lovemaking between two lesbians?

"Sex is a word and nobody is really in charge of that term," says Kinsey Institute scientist Erick Janssen. "In a way, our thinking of sex and definitions of sex is more complex than they were in the past."

A study conducted in 1991 that surveyed 599 college students, found that 37% of women considered oral sex to be "sex," as opposed to 44% of men. In a 1996 survey, those stats rose to 46% and 52% respectively. "These data make it clear that general agreement regarding what constitutes having 'had sex' and how sexual partners counted cannot be taken for granted," concluded Kinsey researchers Stephanie Sanders and June Reinisch.

According to a book by Australian sex researchers, "touching blow the waist" constitute getting to third base in the 1960s. Now second base implies touching whereas third base usually denotes oral sex.

Whether you consider "sex" to be oral, anal or vaginal intercourse or even mutual masturbation one thing is for sure: participating in any of these behaviors with someone besides your spouse is cheating. Politicians are great public speakers and thus can be very sneaky in finessing and manipulating their words to avoid trouble, but we all know when they admit to a "hookup" that none of it was kosher.

How would you define the bases these days? What do you think is constitutes "sex"? [AP]
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  • Brianna's Avatar
    Posted by Brianna Wed Jul 1, 2009 9:40pm PDT

    I believe any form of masturbation, oral sex, and any other type of touching in the genital area is sex. that's distasteful and gross

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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Thu Jul 2, 2009 6:05am PDT

    Anything that enters any orifice of your body, thats sex, and crossing the line.

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  • Skobi's Avatar
    Posted by Skobi Thu Jul 2, 2009 6:06am PDT

    Hey, call it whatever you may, i am a meat eater and sex is definately penetration. That is only my opinion if a toy or a finger gives you satisfaction, who am i to judge?

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  • Rebecca G's Avatar
    Posted by Rebecca G Thu Jul 2, 2009 6:09am PDT

    how is oral sex not considered penetration. The last time I did it or had it done to me there was definitely things being penetrated. This is so funny. I used to say, "No, we didnt have sex..I just gave him a BJ" now I have to consider it all sex. Boy, that sure made my number of partners go up.

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  • JennA's Avatar
    Posted by JennA Thu Jul 2, 2009 6:49am PDT

    None,

    I actually agree with you, whoa.

    Whenever there is organ tissue (sex organs) involved uh..sex

    FYI people:

    Manual Sex

    Oral Sex

    Anal Sex

    Yeah, they have names.

    Jen

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  • Parasher's Avatar
    Posted by Parasher Thu Jul 2, 2009 6:53am PDT

    sex means relaxement

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  • Aaron L's Avatar
    Posted by Aaron L Thu Jul 2, 2009 7:03am PDT

    Sex is anything involving stimulation of genitals of another person.

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  • Irishgrl's Avatar
    Posted by Irishgrl Thu Jul 2, 2009 9:02am PDT

    Briana- Your post is hilarious: I dont think that oral sex is "Sex" I think when u penetrate thats "Sex" the other stuff is what i consider foreplay or messing around...I guess different age and time...sorry old generation..haha get on board!

    HELLO Contradiction: If you consider anything with penetration to be sex, then oral penetration should be considered as well.

    Personally I go with the legal and medical rationalization..... medically if you can catch an STD doing it, then it should be called sex. Legally if it comes up in a courtroom as a form of penetration that you can be charged criminally with... then it is sexual penetration. And yes Oral sex is included in both of these.

    Penetration of any sort is sex for most of the people I know, and that covers all orafices.

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  • Joni's Avatar
    Posted by Joni Thu Jul 2, 2009 9:50am PDT

    sex..?

    mmm... true heaven of eart, that if you can enjoyed..

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  • Dayna's Avatar
    Posted by Dayna Thu Jul 2, 2009 11:14am PDT

    Why do people say that oral sex is not sex? The word sex is in the title.

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