Over the past two months, I have been to one wedding, and
learned of at least 7 other couples in which I'm friends
with at least one person in each, getting married or engaged.
I found out today that my first boyfriend, who I dated 3 years ago,
is getting married in August. A former roommate of mine got engaged
in May and will be married in October next year. My best friend in
high school is getting married in January; another close high
school friend who's a year younger than I am is getting married
next summer.
I'm 22 years old. I get the facts that these people, my
contemporaries, have been with their partners for at least 3 years
(compared to my 1 year and 8 months) and have already started their
post-college lives (whereas I've still got another year or two
because of switching majors, and graduate school on top of that).
But they're between my age and being no more than 3 years
older; it's startling to know that they're becoming
"real, honest-to-goodness" adults, knowing that
the one they're with is the one they want for all
time, while I'm still seemingly stuck in the mud,
struggling to get out and take my place in the race.
Have you ever felt like you were playing catch-up with
friends who are engaged or married?
Friends getting engaged: Have you ever felt like you're playing "catch-up"?
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Posted by Mon Jul 6, 2009 3:09pm PDT
Report AbuseI know how you feel. Most of my younger cousins, and my friends are either hitched or getting ready to tie the knot. a couple aren't there yet simply because they aren't 18 just yet. Me personally I'm still trying to find love where as almost everone I know eccept one guy have all found who they want for life. I'm still in college and will be for the next 3 years working on my english major. For me it seems love isn't in the cards yet though my friends who most are younger than me have already found it.
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Posted by Tue Jul 7, 2009 6:55am PDT
Report AbuseNo, I've never felt that because I don't measure my life by someone else's standards. You hear and see all of these people getting married and engaged but most wind up unhappy, don't even make it from engagement to marriage or in horrible situations with the wrong person and kids are involved. And most will probably be divorced before you get out of grad school. Just because people have forced it down our throats that this is a sign of progress and happiness, by today's standards, it's not so much anymore. Live your life the way that works best for you.
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Posted by Tue Jul 7, 2009 8:07am PDT
Report Abusewell dont feel bad becuase they are the stupid ones getting married so young there probably letting the good sex that they have with their partner take over them cuz think about it ones you have sex with someone and its real good and your with them for a while its always babies or marriege that come out of peoples mouth in order for you to know your going to be with that person for a while at least 9 years before you get married because I know people who got married at their age of 20 and end up getting divorced 3 or 5 years after so to me marriage is a curse everything turns out good before you get married but after marriage alot of things could happen and not to mention its going to be really hard to brake it off with someone when your married becuase then you have to go through this big process of divorce incase something does happen I mean come on what are the chances you guys being so young married god forbids one cheats then you having that ring on your finger what was the point of getting married first you have to know that your going to be with that person and I mean be with them at least 6 - 9 years thats how you know that person is for you then you could decide on getting married so dont rush yourself becuase honey the age 22 is a hot age and if anything you should be the one ruining marriages if you know what I mean
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Posted by Tue Jul 7, 2009 8:11am PDT
Report Abuse3 or 1 year is not enough to know that is the man of your life trust me im 22 and ive been married 1 and already divored I was with him for 3 years before I got married to him after 1 year of being married I divoreced him becuase he cheated and I was pregnant so learn from experiences or other pepeoles experinces
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Posted by Tue Jul 7, 2009 8:20am PDT
Report AbuseTJ and Marjorie and now me all agree. Who cares that your friends are getting married or engaged. At 22, I don't care how long you have been together, unless you fall into the extremely rare cases of successful marriages that started at young ages, it won't last. I think most women marry young because the "desire" for the wedding and the marriage are all very idealist and NOT realistic. You may not see it now, but wait and you will be much happier that you did.
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Posted by Wed Jul 15, 2009 9:43pm PDT
Report AbuseI was starting to wonder if I had actually posted this question! Oh, I think about this all the time. All of my friends are now married, a couple with babies on the way, none of them went to college yet they seem to have more together than i do...their husbands take care of them...i have worked so much harder than them, but they have everything i want....it blows..i guess im jealous, but it is hard to admit...
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Posted by Thu Jul 16, 2009 2:14am PDT
Report AbuseI feel u.I'm kinda like in the same shoes right now.But who cares if all the females in the world get married and I'm left alone?Come to think of it five years down the line would most of this marriages still stand?If one is patient enough,the time for marriage will come and pls note that marriage does not necessarily translate to becoming"real, honest to goodness adults".Quite a handful of people are in marriages they presently hate.If u are like me,you will enjoy your spinsterhood while it lasts cause you are definitely gonna miss occasionally after walking down the aisle.LOL!!!!!!!!!!!
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