I ve always been the typeof person who has trouble planning, organizing, and understanding detailedmathematical things like finance.Through the years my best friend Justin, who is good at all of theaforementioned things, has always helped me with managing money, and otherthings that require attention to detail.His ability to help me in a pinch wastested again the day after his girlfriend s birthday.
The day after thebirthday, I was attending a wedding.It was black tie optional, but luckily I had a black suit.Or so I thought. Unfortunately, I waited until 11 AM the day of the wedding(the wedding started at 6 PM) to look in my closet for the suit.After rifling through my closet, Irealized my suit was not there.Iimmediately texted Justin: nosuit in my closet .
I had one hope left:perhaps it was at the cleaners.Iwent to the two cleaners in my neighborhood one of them said they had nothing,and one said I had never even been there as a customer before.Oops. In the meantime, Justin reminded me that I had used my suit in Baltimore for my niece s christening and left it down there.I texted Justin again:
RICH: No suit anywhere but I dohave black dress pants.
JUSTIN: OK, I m on FifthAvenue.Bring the pants and we llmatch them with a jacket.
Suddenly I felt a hugesense of relief.I had somesupport in my time of crisis.
As Justin and I zippedthrough stores, we realized we were going to have to get a whole new suit.No fabric or color was matching the blackpants I owned.
We hit the jackpot whenwe tried H & M.They had a lotof suits and they were cheap.Ifrantically squeezed into pants (and took a swim in some) while Justin ran back and forth retrieving different size pants and jackets until we got itright. His final contribution occurred when I was considering what tie to wear hepointed to the wall at a New Wave looking tie that Blondie s band may haveworn: skinny tie, he yelled triumphantly.Justin had demonstrated impeccable loyalty and commitment tomy crisis, along with a keen eye for fashion.That skinny tie was going to make waves.
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We walked out onto thestreet and Justin said:
Wow we got that done pretty fast.
We are still a prettydamn good team in crisis, I said.
That night at the wedding,I was moved by a part of the program that explained the ring tradition:
The exchanging of therings signifies that in married life, the weaknesses of the partner will becompensated by the strengths of the other; the imperfections of the one by theperfections of the other.Bythemselves, the newly-betrothed are incomplete; together they are perfect.
So, Justin and I have hadour friendship play out this way.He s always been able to help me out, organize me, and I ve always beenable to keep life loose by being stupid (not really a fair tradeoff, but heseems to like it).
The night before my suitcrisis, a bunch of us celebrated Justin s girlfriend s birthday.I was talking to a friend and we agreedto walk down the aisle together at Justin's wedding since we would both be inthe wedding.I also shared alittle speech with her that I was saving for whenever Justin and his girlfriendgot married.After the suitcrisis, I was faced with the reality that Justin, while he d ultimately alwaysbe there for me, some day would have his attention divided after he was married.
So, I realized some of thethings I had to have in the perfect girl (and it s not as creepy as just beinga female Justin, though that wouldn t be that bad either).
Somewhere out there is agirl who will drop everything at any moment to make sure I ve crossed my Ts anddotted my I s. All I can offer that I can think of is making her laugh and I mreally good at fixing things.
But, this past weekend, myfriend not only demonstrated what a best friend is, but he reminded me thatwhen I find the right girl she ll be a best friend too.
There s definitely adifference between significant other and just friends , but do you find that theone has an element of being a best friend to you?Have any of you learned what you want in a significantother by your experiences with close friends?
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