Yes, we did move too fast at the beginning, but the chemistry was
so strong! the intense gazes between us, the similar goals,
the similar values, and not to mention we just plain really liked
each other and got comfortable quick!
however, he had an unexpected baby on the way from a short fling
with someone it didn't work out with a month before dating
me. she actually decided to keep the baby and he, being a
good guy, decides to take responsibility. i applaud that he
isn't a deadbeat dad, however that completely changes
everything.
he gave me the chance to get out because he understood the
difficulties that would come from this situation. but he also
reminded me that he loved me, didn't want to lose me, and would
do his best for us...
i made the decision to wait it out to see if he could balance
having a baby and dating and all the everyday issues of life (i had
faith in him). i even said, hey we could take it slow because
we went so fast. isn't a strong relationship one
where we both stick it out together? i still wasn't
completely done with my own goals anyway and could focus on me more
me, while he was changing diapers, right?
now it's been a good couple of seasons and i'm not sure if
i did the right thing. i find myself missing him a lot and
finding comfort in my friends and family. i hear from him
everyday, but i don't feel like we go do enough things together
like couples ought to do. i find it hard to hold on to our
good experiences because i'm always anxious about making plans
and then having to cancel OR i'm anxious about not being able
to see him when *I* want to see him OR if he's just sooo burnt
out from taking care of an infant, our time together is sort of
one-sided.....
i worry about being too selfish or not being understanding enough
or am i being too accommodating, sacrificing too much?
is the bottom line really that love doesn't come around that
often and if you have these feelings you fight for them? or is it
that we really have control over who we choose to love and i need
to find a better fit?
arg, frustrated one day, happy in love the next... what the
hell.
Dating a single dad with a new baby (and it's not mine!)
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Posted by Sat Jan 3, 2009 2:04pm PST
Report Abusei think that if you really love him you would be more understanding in the fact that this is his life now if you cant support him and be there for him completely in this period in his life what makes you think you could stick around if something more serious happens if you love him maybe you should try helping him out like offering to come over and cook him dinner you just have to learn his life is different now and there are adjustments to be made you just have to decide if you love him enough to make the changes necessary at this point in his life
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Posted by Sat Jan 3, 2009 2:05pm PST
Report Abusei think that if you really love him you would be more understanding in the fact that this is his life now if you cant support him and be there for him completely in this period in his life what makes you think you could stick around if something more serious happens if you love him maybe you should try helping him out like offering to come over and cook him dinner you just have to learn his life is different now and there are adjustments to be made you just have to decide if you love him enough to make the changes necessary at this point in his life
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Posted by Sat Jan 3, 2009 3:33pm PST
Report AbuseYOU SAY YOU LOVE HIM, HOLD ON TO HIM! I WISH I HAD LOVE LIKE U, IF HE'S COMFORTABLE WITH YOU HELPING TAKE CARE OF THE LITTLE ONE THEN YOU ALL CAN DO IT TOGTHER, U MIGHT LEARN A THING OR TWO ABOUT BABIES AND YOU'LL HAVE YOUR MAN, BUT HE HE REFUSES GIVE HIM HIS SPACE FOR A LITTLE LONGER AND AFTER YOU STOP HEARING FROM HIM JUST MOVE ON. I KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE IT WILL BE HARD BUT WE ALL HAVE TO MAKE DRASTIC DECISONS.
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Posted by Mon Oct 26, 2009 6:28am PDT
Report AbuseOk I am currently in this exact situation and am still waiting for the baby to be born....I'm hesitant like the above writer to deal with the baby mama drama and all that is involved with this new baby. I need an update anything good come out of your situation Torpedo?
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