Though there are a lot more dangers, such as HIV/AIDS, the plus is that our idenities are fully developed. Women in this age group have a strong sense of self. We also know what we are looking for. And gentlemen, this doesn't necessarily mean a guy with a big bank account.
I will never forget a gentleman I was dating who took it upon himself to show me one of his accounts and started going over his finances with me. I actually was horrified because it was too early in our relationship for him to share this information with me. Secondly, I was not interested in rushing into a second marriage. That action also was enough to scare the living heck out of me. Now, for some women that live and breath by the bank account, this would have been fine, but for me, I will have to say after going through a recent divorce, I was in NO hurry to go down the aisle again. Needless to say, the relationship ended shortly thereafter.
For women who say, "There are NO good men out there!" I beg to differ. There are a lot of options out there for dating, but I do find one strange trend, I have dated very few men my age. Either they are up to 10 years younger or at least 10 years older than I am. Why I find that interesting is that the younger men expect women to be more liberated and they don't try to have a traditional relationship. They tend to view the relationship as a partnership. Older men, are more relaxed, mellow, and less likely to be so rigid and enjoy the company of a younger, but mature woman who is self aware. However, what I find amusing are the men that are my age. They are chasing after girls who are in their 20s who they can control. More power to them. All I can say is that in my 20s, I devestated many a 40 year old man's heart. I wasn't interested in marrying someone who could be my father at that age.
Ladies, just because you may be in your 40s, never tell yourself your love life is over. So don't bury yourself in the business of life while you are still very much alive. Get out there and take a chance. Be selective, flirt, and give a guy a smile. You deserve to have some fun! Sometimes a dinner, is just a dinner, but it depends on what is being offered for dessert.
Photo: (C) 2008 Marilyn Campiz
