bye bye texting hubby - hello satisfying friend

Ok so my hubby moved out about 2 months ago, after sending me the infamous "I'm moving friday it's over" text. A couple weeks later, I went to pick up a friend so she could come with me to get my first tattoo. Afterwards we went back to her place that she shares with her man and a few other guys. We all drank and talked for a few hours. Then I went back home. Once I got served with the divorce papers. I called up my friend. She mentioned one of the guys liked me. Turns out it was the same one I liked. So being a good friend she passed my number along. But not before briefing me on his situation and briefing him on mine.

Turns out he was engaged before. And the girl left him to get back with an old flame (at least from I understand, I’ve never even met the girl) The strange part… She left the same day my hubby left. How weird that we both became broken hearted on the same day.

We started seeing each other the weekend after the divorce papers were served to me. We’ve been seeing a lot of each other. He said he wanted to back up a little and put things on a friendship level, since he doesn’t know what’s going on in his life. Okay, no biggie. We can be friends. He doesn’t want a relationship – understandable. I would like something, just not serious. I don’t like to share so I just like the reassurance that we’re exclusive.

But a week or so later I invite him to go have some drinks with me and some friends – just as friends. We ended up at his place that night, and the night after… and then not the next night but one after that at my place. We go on dates, we hang out (with sex and without sex). It’s like we’re boyfriend/girlfriend. Only without the title. His best friend is my best friend’s man, and they tell me he really likes me… and he only wants to see me, and only me. So are we exclusive? I haven’t been out with anyone else. He used to go over and see them during all his free time. Now if he’s not there he’s with me. Or we’re both over there lol.

He is the complete opposite from my future ex-husband. This guy is sweet. He shows respect. He apologized to me more in one night than my hubby in our entire 3 year marriage. The really good thing is since we’re going through the same situation, we can relate to each other. I think of us as a band aid for each other. Helping the other heal. I’m not throwing out the idea of a possible future with him, but I’m certainly not thinking more ahead than a week at this point. This could very well just be the average rebound relationship – on a friendship level of course LOL.

I gotta say this is the most satisfying friendship I’ve ever had.