First off, a huge congratulations to Jane! Jane's become one of my [virtual] mentors on the blog, and I love hearing her take on the world and I'm so, so, excited she's sharing her pregnancy journey on the blog!
And, in the spirit of mentorship and going to the experts to find the answers, I asked Jodi Lipper and Cerina Vincent, authors of the brand new book How to Love Like a Hot Chick: The Girlfriend to Girlfriend Guide to Getting the Love You Deserve, answer some of my relationship questions. Check out what THEY had to say about my frisky past and my current dates with the dude who loves Audrey movies!
What is a hot chick?
We want to redefine the term Hot Chick so that every woman out
there starts to feel like one! We think that being a Hot Chick has
nothing to do with looking like an airbrushed, artificially
enhanced celebrity. Instead, we define a Hot Chick as a confident,
passionate, honest woman who knows what she wants and gets it, is
aware of her flaws but doesn't obsess over them, doesn't
compete with other women, and uses all of her sexy power strictly
for good. We were thrilled that our first book, How to Eat Like a
Hot Chick, helped convince thousands of women that they are hot,
and we hope that How to Love Like a Hot Chick will inspire many
more women to start living, loving and feeling like the Hot Chicks
they already are deep down inside!
As my blog readers know, I have a bit of a frisky past. But
now I'm ready to settle down! Any tips to make sure I don't
fall into my old habits of sleeping with a guy on the first
date?
We are so excited that you had a fantastic, frisky heyday! But you
can have just as much frisky fun in a monogamous relationship as
you did as a sassy single girl. The most important way to make sure
you don't fall into your old habits is to know exactly what you
want in a man and in a relationship. You need to be crystal clear
with yourself (and the universe) about what you want and what you
don't want. We have a unique Build-A-Boyfriend program in our
book, and after you've completed it, you'll know in your
heart what kind of man will make you feel happy and fulfilled. Once
you know that, sleeping with men that don't meet your criteria
won't seem quite as interesting as it used to.
Our advice is that if you're looking to settle down, you
should wait until at least the third date. That way, you'll be
able to focus on the potential relationship without being
distracted by all of the complications that sex can bring!
Right now, I'm sort of in a dating rut-I've been
going on platonic dates with a guy who shares my love of Audrey
Hepburn movies but we haven't made out at all-even though
he's totally straight! Are there any tips you have in a
situation like this for how to amp up the romance?
We're very sorry to say this, but we don't think this guy
is the one for you! We want a Hot Chick like you to find someone
you're so passionate about that you can't get through the
opening credits to a movie without making out like crazy.
Especially because of your frisky past, you'll need strong
chemistry in order to be satisfied in a relationship, and we know
that you can find that! It doesn't sound like this guy is
getting your motor running and we don't want you to settle for
that. However, don't give up too easy. If you like him as a
person, you should give it a shot. Don't be afraid to make the
first move! Go ahead and tackle him during Breakfast at
Tiffany's and see what happens. But if there's any
awkwardness or hesitation on his part, dump him immediately and
focus on finding someone who's more interested in you than Ms.
Hepburn.
I want to be in a serious relationship, but I don't
want to scare guys away. Any suggestions for how to approach dates
with my goals in mind?
The fact that you want to be in a relationship will only scare away
guys who don't want to be in a relationship, and that is a good
thing! By running away and hiding, those guys are actually saving
you a lot of time and energy that you might have otherwise wasted
on someone who clearly doesn't want the same thing as you.
There are plenty of guys out there who want to be in relationships,
too, and being honest with yourself and them about what you want
will help you find the right one. As long as you don't do
anything creepy like talk about what your babies would look like on
your first date, you should feel free to tell him what you're
looking for like the confident, empowered Hot Chick that you
are!
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