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Friday, November 20, 2009

Woman Called Indecent for Breastfeeding in Public

If it weren’t for the three television news cameras, the documentary maker, and the various reporters with notebooks and pens poised for action, Friday, September 4, 2009, would feel like any other day in Lincoln Square, a family-dominated neighborhood in Chicago.

The stroller brigade is out in full force. Women mill around with kids strapped to their backs and fronts, and the older, free-range children chase pigeons through the tree-lined, bench-lined central meeting place called Giddings Plaza. With watchful eyes, mothers sit on the raised stage portion of the square and feed their babies -- breastfeed their babies, that is.

Lauren Trost, a pretty, slight 33-year-old brunette Chicago resident, and her seven-month-old cherubic son, Hank, are at the center of what’s being dubbed the Lincoln Square Nurse-In. Trost looks around in amazement at the crowd of more than 30 women. This wasn’t exactly what she expected to see.

It all began Friday, August 21, when Trost was helping her sister and brother-in-law at their nearby jewelry store. It was hot inside the store, and little Hank was hungry, so Trost walked over to Giddings Plaza to nurse him while watching the lunchtime band play.

As an accordion player squeezed out “Edelweiss,” a woman with two children approached Trost and told her that what she was doing -- breastfeeding -- was “indecent.” She threatened to call the police. Trost was taken aback.

“I said, ‘OK, well I’m well within my legal rights to breastfeed in the state of Illinois, anywhere I want,” she said. She continued nursing and encouraged the woman to call the cops.

No cops showed, and the woman eventually left, but only after Trost heard her talking to anyone and everyone within earshot, trying to also get their ire up about Trost’s breastfeeding. No one was interested in engaging.

Trost was shaken, so she went home and posted something on a message board about the encounter. Her friends read the post and decided that they wanted to help Trost turn the negative experience into something positive. The nurse-in was born when a few friends agreed to meet in Lincoln Square at noon with their babies.

Then, CBS 2 Chicago broadcasted a story on the conflict, mentioning the nurse-in, and suddenly Trost started getting friend requests on Facebook from women she’d never met who wanted to join in. Friends of friends on the message board also reposted information about the nurse-in, and without even intending it, Trost found herself in the middle of a giant support group, where, suddenly, she was the mouthpiece.

Her friends have come up with titles for her: “lactivist,” “cele-breast-y,” “celebrititty.” Before this incident Trost had never been on television for anything, nor had Hank. “You need to get an agent,” she says jokingly to her baby, who sits happily in a sling around her chest.

Turns out the women came out in force because many have had similar encounters of public scolding. Claire Shingler, a mother of three, was watching her daughter’s swimming lesson and nursing her son in the stands, when she was told by the gym’s staff that if she was going to breastfeed she needed to do it in the locker room. Laura Cohen was nursing her son at Garfield Park Conservatory when a security guard told her she needed to cover him up with a blanket. She tried to explain that it was too hot to do that, but says the security guard wouldn’t let up.

All of the mothers cited Illinois’ “The Right to Breastfeed Act” in their defense, which states that a mother may breastfeed in any location where the mother is authorized to be.

Lincoln Square is, of course, no exception. As dozens of women feed their babies on this sunny summer day, there really is nothing to see. Not only are they well covered in various nursing tank tops and nursing shirts, but they have giant baby heads blocking any kind of peep show. As the breastfeeding goes on en masse, the passersby on Lincoln Avenue certainly can’t tell what’s going on, which is ironic, considering this in-your-face “indecency” is what started this whole suckle-palooza. The stragglers who do stop out of curiosity only do it because they see the news cameras are out in force.

A woman with two kids walks past, eyebrows furrowed. “What’s going on?” she wonders aloud, and then answers her own question when she sees a flier. “It’s a ‘nurse-in?’ Oh good grief,” she scoffs, and keeps walking.

Another man looks curiously at the crowd and then scrutinizes a Lincoln Square “Summer Concert Series” calendar, looking for answers. Not finding them, he asks around to find out what the fuss is. When told it’s a nurse-in he chuckles, shakes his head, and keeps walking. “Must be a slow news week,” he says.

Share your views on breastfeeding with other moms who breastfeed.

--Kate Silver for Parents.com


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  • NiVo's Avatar
    Posted by NiVo Fri Nov 6, 2009 9:45pm PST

    Who hasn't seen a breast? Either you have one, your lover has one, or you sucked on one when you were a kid. There's nothing indecent about feeding your child.

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  • Elynne's Avatar
    Posted by Elynne Fri Nov 6, 2009 9:54pm PST

    What these women are doing is awesome! Breastfeeding is the way to go with your child, if you can walk around in a bare bikini with breasts almost popping out, what is wrong with a mother breastfeeding her baby? Clearly those women who think it was 'indecent' are clearly prudes..

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  • Mammina's Avatar
    Posted by Mammina Fri Nov 6, 2009 10:16pm PST

    Indecent are those who wear skimpy skirts and too low cut tops, (if not also wearing pushups) with their boobs almost jumping out with every step they make. Breast feeding is the most natural thing is the world, I breastfed my daughter for almost a year, but can say that I was very discreet about it.

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  • becca's Avatar
    Posted by becca Fri Nov 6, 2009 10:18pm PST

    i don't care if moms breastfeed in public as long as they keep their breasts covered. Like the chick in the photo, that wouldn't bother me.

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  • Keith T's Avatar
    Posted by Keith T Fri Nov 6, 2009 10:34pm PST

    She could be totally nude while breastfeeding her child and NOT be indecent! Violence, bigotry, greed and intolerance are indecent not the human body! When will people just grow up and realize that it's their thoughts that are dirty, the human body is beautiful.

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  • netondomu's Avatar
    Posted by netondomu Fri Nov 6, 2009 10:35pm PST

    If a woman can expose her breasts in a push up bra or show her cleavage then why shouldn't she be allowed to breast feed her child?I'm from a country where women breast feed in public and nobody hussles them.People should get over themselves.Breasts are just like any other body part and we need to realize that.

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  • Julia's Avatar
    Posted by Julia Fri Nov 6, 2009 10:48pm PST

    yeah but even if she wasn't fully covered up.. its not that big of a deal.. it is a BREAST! everyone has them and the majority of the public has been breastfed themselves.

    I don't understand how America has so many rules about every little thing. They block so much stuff on tv and make rules that prevent mothers from feeding their own children! I love living in the USA but when are they going to let up and realized that it is OK if something as natural as a breast is shown. Sometimes I think living in Europe would be a lot nicer. It would be so much more relaxed!

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  • Janet's Avatar
    Posted by Janet Fri Nov 6, 2009 10:54pm PST

    I come from a different era, so it wasn't an option to do as we pleased despite the Dawning, of The so called "Age of Aquarius, I grew up in...Women still weren't free to do as they pleased! Women still had to fight for their rights.. Every inch of the way! Even if I were a new mother today....I wouldn't choose to breast-feed in public..but that's just me. I'm a private kinda of person!...To each their own...

    But... Why is is when someone wants to do what they voice is their "Right" and someone else Objects, they have to make a spectacle of the matter?...

    So..Who's SPECTACLE should be honored?..The Objector...or The Doer?

    Personally..It makes no difference to me whether a mother nurses her baby in public as long as it's done in an appropriate manner. But...unfortunately, not all nursing mother's are conscientious. Although, we live in an era of modern civility..Not all agree on what's acually civil.

    One must always remember to set a good example for young people and children while they choose to do as they please.

    I so hope that one day, this issue will not be an issue.

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  • annie's Avatar
    Posted by annie Sat Nov 7, 2009 4:14am PST

    Oh girls, go on and feed your babies wherever...breastfeeding is good for Mom and Baby... but why the overkill and the making big of this issue? A breast sit n? Too much time on your ands LADIES!!! People with some sense really do not care......

    BTW, I live in Chicago and saw some of this freak show. Gave me a chuckle it did.......I wanted to ask "Did you skip the last feed so little Hankie would be sure to want to suckle at 12:32 in the public square just so you could make your point?"

    My boys are 19/21/24 and I nursed each one for an average 18 months: around a career, around a life and most definately in public, in the libary, on the El, and in the grocery store.

    In the eighties. I think I got perhaps 2-3 ignorant comments over a five year period and all it took was to take the boy off the beastly breast and flash the Tat right in the face of the conscientious objector while very impolitely asking the MoFo to Move the Hey ON!

    Worked for me....

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  • Rachel_PPC's Avatar
    Posted by Rachel_PPC Sat Nov 7, 2009 4:28am PST

    Here's my stance...breastfeeding is great, but to stage a feed-a-thon is just unnecessary. I am fully aware that babies need to eat at some inconvenient times, and that sometimes public feeding is necessary. But there is a tasteful way to go about it, and this is not the way. It's just silly.

    Drape yourself...period. I've been in public places and seen women casually drape themselves, and suckle their infants and for the most part, no one complains. It's when you whip out an engorged tit in full view of the public that people get pissed off. No one is going to harass a woman breastfeeding on a park bench if she's covered.

    Why is it a big deal? Because if I casually busted out one of my boobs in public, it would be considered indecent exposure. It's simply courteous to cover up, and that's not asking too much.

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