Parenting
Friday, November 27, 2009
Who gets your kids if you and your spouse both die?
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- by CafeMom, on Mon Jul 6, 2009 4:27pm PDT
Michael
Jackson's death has me thinking I should hurry up and name
a legal guardian for my daughter just in case both me and my
husband die. According to news reports, Michael Jackson's mom
has legal custody of his three children; if she dies, then
Diana Ross will take custody of
Jackson's kids.
My husband and I will be the guardians of my sister's three
kids in case something should happen to her and her husband. We
will also be the guardians of my brother-in-law's daughter if
he and his wife should die.
It's pretty heavy stuff.
I know we should name a guardian for our daughter and that we
should definitely put it in writing so there are no questions as to
who "gets" her, but thinking about dying and our baby
living without us is too depressing.
We've talked about it a little, but we've found it hard
to come up with a choice we both feel comfortable with.
Have you named a legal guardian for your baby in the
event of your death? How did you make the decision? What kinds of
things did you consider?
Written by Suzanne Murray for
CafeMom's Baby Buzz
Related: will, personal guardian, parents die, michael's jackson's children, legal rights, legal guardian, guardianship, custody, cafemom
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Posted by Frantastic Thu Jul 9, 2009 12:27pm PDT
Interestingly, one of our son's who was about 12 or 11 at the time asked who they would go to. We did the godparent thing, but I honestly don't know if I would really be comfortable with it. the boys are older now. the youngest is 14. should that happen, I have a 17 soon to be 18 year old that would do the job. It really is hard though. Bottom line you want someone who will carry out your wishes regardless. That they are stable individuals, not perfect, but stable. Yes this is something we should all consider. that is the inevitable we will die.
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Posted by Veronica Thu Jul 9, 2009 7:07pm PDT
I have picked a guardian if something should happen. My situation is very different. Me and My son's dad are not together and I have sole and physcial custody of him. His dad onlu has supervised visits. Although I dont have it in writing but the primary would be my parents and if they are incapable then my older sister would and she has 2 kids of her own and is married.
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Posted by allee Sun Jul 12, 2009 6:12am PDT
my older children alrady live with their grandparents. long story there. but otherwise they would go to my lifelong best friend and her husband. who is my cousin. i know she would care for and love them, also be a great role model.
my youngest however would go to my husbands brother most likely. although her godfather is my sisters husband. and her godparents are my best friend, and husbands sister. although my best friend is a top choice. my sis in law is not. and my bother in law is a good choice.
nothing is in writing it is all word of mouth, and spoken agreements.
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Posted by Kathy Sun Jul 12, 2009 6:54am PDT
Since I already lost my husband , my minor son would go to his adult brother. I dont feel that there is any other choice considering the in-laws and their ways.
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