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Saturday, November 28, 2009

What Your Child's Teacher Won't Tell You

Adapted from interviews with teachers by Neena Samuel

Plus: 13 More Things Your Child's Teacher Won't Tell You

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1. My first year of teaching, a fifth-grader actually threw a chair at me. I saw him recently, and he told me he just graduated from college. That’s what makes it all worthwhile.

2. I have parents who are CEOs of their own companies come in and tell me how to run my classroom. I would never think to go to their office and tell them how to do their jobs.

3. We don’t arrive at school 10 minutes before your child does. And we don’t leave the minute they get back on the bus. Many of us put in extra hours before and after school.


4. We are not the enemy. Parents and teachers really are on the same side.

5. The truth is simple: Your kid will lie to get out of trouble.

6. Encourage your child to keep reading. That’s key to success in the classroom at any age.

7. We can tell the difference between a parent helping their child with homework and doing it for them (especially when they’re clueless in class the next day).

8. Teaching is a calling. There’s not a teacher alive who will say she went into this for the money.

9. Just because your child says he did his homework doesn’t mean it’s true. You must check. Every night.

10. Teaching is not as joyful as it once was for many of us; we get jaded too. Disrespectful students and belligerent parents take a toll on us.

11. Parents give their kids the pricey gadgets and labels, but what kids really crave is for you to talk to them. They want to know you are interested in their lives.

12. We spend money out of our own pockets to buy things our students need, such as school supplies and even shoes.

13. Supportive, involved parents are crucial. But some are “helicopter parents”--they hover too much.

14. Having the summer off is great, but many of us have to take on extra jobs--teaching summer school, tutoring--to make ends meet.

15. Success is not achieved by just making kids memorize flash cards and prepping them for an Ivy League school. Sensible parents know there is a college for every kid, and that responsibility and good citizenship are what really drive success.

16. Nobody says “the dog ate my homework” anymore, but we hear a lot of “I left it on the kitchen table.” And then Mom will send in a note to back up the story.

17. We wish parents would make their kids own up to their actions instead of pressuring us to bend the rules.

18. Please stop doing everything for your child and allow them to make mistakes. How else will they learn? Kids are not motivated to succeed because they feel their parents will bail them out every time.

19. There are days when I just want to quit, but then that one smile from that one kid, changes it all.

Sources: American Federation of Teachers; interviews with elementary and middle school teachers in California, Connecticut, Georgia, Iowa, Minnesota, New York, and Texas.

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  • Amiata's Avatar
    Posted by Amiata Tue Sep 29, 2009 7:42am PDT

    #13 is very true. Teachers have limited budgets and many of them spend their own $$ to supply their students with the proper learning materials.

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  • John's Avatar
    Posted by John Tue Sep 29, 2009 8:12am PDT

    6. The truth is simple: Your kid will lie to get out of trouble.

    - Being a student myself, this is absolutely true. All kids will lie to get out of trouble in anyway.

    7. Encourage your child to keep reading. That’s key to success in the classroom at any age.

    - Agreed, reading helps a lot, doesn't matter what you read, it helps.

    19. Please stop doing everything for your child and allow them to make mistakes. How else will they learn? Kids are not motivated to succeed because they feel their parents will bail them out every time.

    - +Up. I love this one. So true.

    Thank you for sharing!

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  • Lauren's Avatar
    Posted by Lauren Tue Sep 29, 2009 8:17am PDT

    These make so much sense! My mom is a teacher and I've heard her express many similar thoughts over her 25+ years in the classroom. #7 is great advice - reading is so important, for kids and adults alike!

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  • SUNIL's Avatar
    Posted by SUNIL Tue Sep 29, 2009 8:24am PDT

    Yes, teachers are a revered lot. But the respect has dwindled over the years. Still, the fact remains, that they are the ones who guide the children most because they are the ones who spend time with them most. Not parents, but teachers. Many parents don't spend time with their kids, but teachers do. They deserve a BIG pat on their backs for making and molding lives of the kids under them....

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  • Liz's Avatar
    Posted by Liz Tue Sep 29, 2009 8:26am PDT

    So many of these ring true for me! I was recently a substitute teacher and found that children today had a hard time respecting authority. I think parents are not disciplining children as much as they used to... teachers don't have it easy. They deal with your children maybe even more than you do, so please teach your child how to respect others as well.

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  • Meaghan's Avatar
    Posted by Meaghan Tue Sep 29, 2009 8:27am PDT

    It's not easy being a teacher. I respect the work that they do!

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  • Kristen's Avatar
    Posted by Kristen Tue Sep 29, 2009 8:43am PDT

    This is a great article! Really great points that many people don't realize.

    Having the summer off is great, but many of us have to take on extra jobs--teaching summer school, tutoring--to make ends meet.

    A lot of people say that Teachers have it easy but a lot of my friends are teachers and they really do work through the summer tutoring or working at camps.

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  • little thing's Avatar
    Posted by little thing Tue Sep 29, 2009 8:56am PDT

    Great artical, thanks RD!

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    Posted by little thing Tue Sep 29, 2009 8:57am PDT

    Great article, thanks for sharing

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  • Afsheen's Avatar
    Posted by Afsheen Tue Sep 29, 2009 9:19am PDT

    So true!...

    Parents giving pricey gadgets not only make it difficult for the teacher but also for other parents..

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