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Thursday, November 26, 2009

User post: Why are Kate and TLC alienating the kids' father, Jon?

  I have to be honest from the beginning, I have never been a fan of Jon and Kate Plus 8. I find that week after week the reality of taping a bunch of kids to sustain their parents livelihood as  their money making income machine is distasteful.  Their show is like a fantasy daycare in the form of a home, with children who happen to have the same birthdays that were conceived with the help of a fertility doctor.

    I have to admit the fact that two educated adults and one who is a nurse couldn't use common sense when using IVF to have 6 children is worth some eye-rolling, done purposefully, and  quite selfish on both their parts. However the basis of this show  is the kids, but they should not be responsible for the burden of being born or their parents livelihood. This show should be canceled since neither parent has shown any skills that would satisfy the reality show  world except to publicly humiliate themselves and eventually their children through this battle of right-fighting. I think that these parents need to realize that their children are the reason why they are in public and to start being parents and not reality rejects. 

   To continue, I have to say that I am disappointed in Kate and TLC's decision to try and minimize Jon's role on their show. What are they thinking? That they can make it look like he is not their father, that they will get someone else to replace him and we won't notice? Jon is central in these kids lives and it looks like Kate and TLC has just dug themselves another hole and another reason why I don't want any part of this. The sad part is if Kate and TLC are allowed to minmize the impact of Jon's role in his kids lives whether it be through the show, the children will realize it and when they are old enough to look back on this time in their lives they will grow to resent Kate and TLC for pushing their father away, whether it is publicly or privately. As with any divorced parents it is important to have the stability in the children's lives. However buying condos or flying to do interviews to talk about facts or speculation about the other parent won't help the children that are caught in the middle of this train wreck. 

    I would like to see the judge put out a gag order, because just like when these parents conceived they lacked the common sense to keep their mouths shut.  The parents also need to understand every dime they made are the children's, not theirs and stop taking money out of the account. That includes both of you Jon and Kate. Kate  admitted she had taken out over 100,000 dollars when the divorce was filed and had to put it back. However that does not make it right for Jon to do it as well. She claims there is only 1,000 dollars left in a joint account, yet they have over 11 accounts with much more money. I don't buy either ones story, partially because Kate was a douche to Jon when they were married and Jon is acting out because he is one too. 

Now that I am at the end of my rant I have one thing to say. Go home to your kids and kiss them good night, because the most important job you will have is being a parent.

P.S. Paula Dean do not do a show with this woman. You are better off with someone who did not become famous because of her kids. I love your show on the Food Network, and I will not watch her on your show.

Same goes for Jon, ya'lls 15 minutes of fame are up. 


 

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  • Kendra's Avatar
    Posted by Kendra Mon Oct 5, 2009 7:17pm PDT

    I agree, well said!

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  • hotNspicy's Avatar
    Posted by hotNspicy Mon Oct 5, 2009 7:24pm PDT

    Jon is an idiot who alienated himself. he left, remember? What this man did is not okay.

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  • anonymous whatever's Avatar
    Posted by anonymous whatever Mon Oct 5, 2009 7:33pm PDT

    Thank you Kendra. :)

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  • tressa's Avatar
    Posted by tressa Mon Oct 5, 2009 7:34pm PDT

    This "man" is acting out something terrible. He seems angry at his situation which he himself created. He hates all the attention but creates it at the same time. He's troubled and is in quite a bind. I almost feel sorry for him. Basically he's shown just how immature he is.....it's hard to watch. She's got probs too.....I think the whole show has to go away. Let the kids grow up without all the cameras. I'm sure they have no idea how they will be followed their entire lives just because they shared the same womb. Really sad.

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  • anonymous whatever's Avatar
    Posted by anonymous whatever Mon Oct 5, 2009 7:36pm PDT

    Hi Brynjen, I don't think it is a matter that he left. He and Kate have custodial arrangements and both share joint custody of the house and rotate their time with the kids.

    I do not condone how Jon has been behaving lately. All I'm saying is that TLC and Kate if they continue with a show, do not have the right to shut out Jon. Besides Being divorced or going through one is not easy. Jon left Kate. He did not leave his kids and not the house.

    Hopefully they will find a resolution and live a normal life without any shows and just be parents to their beautiful kids. :)

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  • anonymous whatever's Avatar
    Posted by anonymous whatever Mon Oct 5, 2009 7:42pm PDT

    Well said Tressa. :)

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  • Phoenix's Avatar
    Posted by Phoenix Mon Oct 5, 2009 7:56pm PDT

    They're both dumb as dirt, but at least now Jon's trying to put a stop to it. He may or may not have ulterior motives, but it's the right thing to do for the kids. Kate wants to keep filming! Pffft. Poor kids.

    ~Never seen a single episode, but yet I can't stop hearing about them and seeing them wherever I go. I agree: your time is up! Next please with a little taste on the side this time if it's not too much trouble.

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  • anonymous whatever's Avatar
    Posted by anonymous whatever Mon Oct 5, 2009 8:29pm PDT

    I agree with your assessment of the Gosselins, Phoneix.

    The kids should always be first. :)

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  • Charity's Avatar
    Posted by Charity Mon Oct 5, 2009 8:54pm PDT

    Do any of you have kids? Do you realize what it takes to give that many kids a life, especially the same age. You want to fault her because she used fertility, he was at that doctors appt. too. She was a germaphobe when he married her and she had to over-compinsate for his lack of involvment. Sure she has bitchy moments, we all do, but that makes it ok for him to sleep with nannies and whoever else happens to cross his path. She writes books and plans camping trips as he travels with the bimbo of the week, and she is the bad guy. WHATEVER!!!!

    I have 5 kids---9,5,4, and twins that are 2. I have often watched the show in sheer desperation to figure out how to survive. Neither of them is perfect, but he is the one that left the marrage. He made the choices for their marrage and their kids. They will know what he did even if they don't watch it in re-runs. He left, plain and simple, didn't try to work it out, he should man up and own his own choices, not make her miserable for trying to continue on with her life and be a mother who is providing for her children.

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    Posted by AnneS Mon Oct 5, 2009 9:52pm PDT

    It doesn't matter who's right and who's wrong, who's the "bad" parent and who's the "good" parent. What matters is that these two people need to SHUT UP and stop bad-mouthing each other on a national forum. At this point they need to close ranks and decide what is in the best interest of their family behind closed doors (but I'm sure TLC won't get much of a ratings boost out of that). It seems that they haven't considered that at some point their children will be old enough to see the footage of their parents bickering back and forth and feel shamed.

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