User post: Do You Ever Wish You Could Run Away?

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  Posted by Zom-B Fri Jul 10, 2009 7:53pm PDT

  Posted by crazy flower lady 4 hours 59 minutes ago

  "As for getting a man to volunteer to help, forget it. Assign a specific task and praise, praise, praise when he does it."

  Wow...as a single father, I don't know how on Earth I manage to handle EVERYTHING with ZERO help without blowing the house up!!!

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  Posted by Felecia Sat Jul 11, 2009 10:00pm PDT

  OMGosh I cant even write a post in peace, I think my kids are destroying my house when they should be in bed!! Run you say oh yes that sounds VERY good!! Dont get me wrong I love my family more than anything but sometimes I just feel tired. Good luck with the bath in peace, I cant even go potty in peace.

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  Posted by Jessa Sun Jul 12, 2009 4:12pm PDT

  Oh yes! Today is one of those days! My 3 year old has been so bad today...temper tantrums, screaming, crying, wanting to be held, will not get off my lap. I do love it when she is loving and sitting with me but not when she is crying about what she cannot have right now.

  I'm so irritated today. She has gotten into my foundation and it's in the carpet, I have managed to get it out of the bathroom floor but oh my goodness!! Margaritas on a beach by myself! I can only dream....

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  Posted by Kathleen Mon Jul 13, 2009 9:17am PDT

  This posting is all new to me! I just had to comment here. I have 2 daughters now 28 & 26. 6 Children I raised in foster care That are still all mine 3 women 28,27,24,3 Men 30,28,25. 4 of These are married & 1 Absolutely perfect LOL Granddaughter that is 2 1/2. I married my best friend from Highschool after Our 20th Class Reunion. Weve been married now 6 years. He has 2 children Daughter 14 & Son 9. So now totaling 14. From 30 to 9.

  Whew!!!! I remember! It is a thankless undertaking for years! Just keep reminding them this is your Shirt etc. It won't fit me! When they are little It is funny! Do not pick it up for them after 4. Say the same thing and watch them learn. If they are angry or ignore you. Walk away. Every child has a favorite shirt skirt etc. If it isn't clean it is there troubles not yours. Remember it doesn't fit me! If you want it put it in the laundry. This has been my life saver!

  Everyone is capable of taking 2 things from the dining room table to the sink also or to help put things away when they are as little as 4.

  When they are teenagers You cook they clean. They will help with cooking even if it is their learning burnt what ever Don't criticize ! Eat! Good try! Then You get to watch more. Participate Less!

  Good things do come to those who wait!!!!!

  I missed all my children so much after they no longer came home during the summers after they all went to College!!! Empty nest!!! That is when I married and Have my step children. Same rules it appears to still work!

  All the grown children are graduates of either College or 3 Vocational. Holidays are unimaginable I cook for a week solid. Don't start the traditional mom makes christmas candy! It is the killer!

  Oh My Goodness!! What did you learn from that! Works better than What the !!!! were you thinking! Because they weren't obviously!!

  As for the Bubble Bath! The sign works! And the ignore works!MP3. They don't like it but they learn. Every one is told to go use the Bathroom and warned that while your in (time out). If anyone totches the other,Blows or looks wrong. you will takes all treats etc. away for 2

  days. Generally They will begin to watch out for the little ones and Be quiet as little mice with in 3 weeks tops! It is mandetory at least 2 times a week you find time out even if you go read a book for 30 min. Then the bubbles will come!!!

  Now really think about the BF! Do you want to raise someone elses Child! You do not want another Ex. I agree with the above postings be specific! Be Specific and Praise! Praise! Praise! Tell him how you need him and his help! He handles the children so well! Let him Know the rules and what you are trying to accomplish. If in 3 weeks he hasn't figured out how to Help with His rewards. Re-think the obvious!

  The Ex does not go away!!!!! The children learn all on there own!!Do Not speak badly of the dead beat abusing jerk around the children ever. If He screams on the phone etc etc. Hang up by saying I'm sure the children hope you have a great day!! He will get it sooner or later that you are not going to play the game!

  Now the long term pay off! I got to take bubble baths 2 times a week. Or just learned the get away relaxation! My children know all their Fathers faults with out me being the bad one or !!!!! as he would call me! They come home on all the Holidays.

  All my children pitched in and sent My oldest Daughter and My self to Maui for 10 days over Mothers Day. Top of the world!! Volcano in the morning and I swam with a sea turtle in the after noon! Got a spa treatment that evening! Mini Beringers were the beverage of choice on the Beach! A Lot of them!!! Sorry I rambled on and on!

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  Posted by Dawn W Mon Jul 13, 2009 8:25pm PDT

  i am a single mother of 5 kids, i dont get any help from the kids father, i have been seeing a married man for over a year, i am a busy hairstylist, my mother always has to comment on what me and my kids are doin wrong.....aaarrrrrrhhhhhhh omg i want to run away ........

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