User post: Do You Ever Wish You Could Run Away?

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  Posted by Robyn Tue Jul 7, 2009 9:19pm PDT

  very often especially when things just suck. i dont complain and i dont having to take care of the house i actually love it ( i know im wierd) but when my daughters birth-mom comes around or when im told that i need to clam down for some reason i want to run away. im not a girly girl, i have never had less then 3 people in my home at one time so im use to chaos and things needing to be done but when im told that im frantic i get pissed and " F*** You" and just want to storm off

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  Posted by Aries Wed Jul 8, 2009 6:30am PDT

  AND I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE...GLAD TO KNOW IM NOT..I THINK WE SHOULD ALL GET TOGETHER AND RUNAWAY TOGETHER....I ALSO HAVE THOUGHT BOUT THE HOSPITAL A TIME OR TWO..BUT I KNOW GOD WOULD NOT GIVE ME MORE THAN I COULD HANDLE, AND WHAT DOES NOT KILL ME CAN ONLY MAKE ME STRONGER...SO TO ALL OF US KEEP YOUR HEAD UP.. "WE CAN DO IT"!!!!I WILL KEEP ALL OF YOU IN MY PRAYERS..AND IF NOBOBY TOLD YOU TODAY "I LOVE YOU"..FROM ONE STRESSED OUT MOM TO THE NEXT***

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  Posted by Freda Wed Jul 8, 2009 8:19am PDT

  Gee,I thought something was wrong w/me for wanting to break away! I would love to meet the person who said"CALGON" take me away! Yea,right. That person must have met up w/Mr. Bubble and slipped away down the drain.lol

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  Posted by Dani Wed Jul 8, 2009 9:53am PDT

  you are not alone. my fiance and have 4 kids total 1 boy and 3 gurls ages 4, 3, 2,1 enough said i need a breack and if that wasnt enough of a blessing we are 78 days away from having our 5th child. yeah we all need a breack and we dont get iy and our boyfriends, fiances, husbands dont get it they are one more child. i sware my fiance is more moodey than me lol i thought the pregnant one wAs suppose to be that way . people say jst wait till you have the baby at least youget to relax now. lol i havent relaxed in 4 years. i havent had a vacation or a breack the longest time i spend alone is when i use the restroom and most of the time theres a knock or achild saying mommy befor i even finsh. look at it this way you only have 18 years befor they move out or whts left of that. if you feel like your loosing it with one try 5 or 4 any day you wanna trade call me.

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  Posted by SFgal Wed Jul 8, 2009 11:04am PDT

  we all need breaks and I don't get them often. But, I have booked a babysitter for Sat. morning (my husband works that day) and I am going to a movie by myself. I can't wait. I'm planning it now so that I don't end up frittering the precious time away doing stuff around the house, like I'm prone to.

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  Posted by Miss_Renee Wed Jul 8, 2009 11:34am PDT

  Hey Smiley,

  I think that Cheryl and LuLuBee have great ideas. Sometimes you don't have the money to go places very far away. Level with the BF - tell him you need a sanity break. He might get his feelings hurt, but explain that even a night of just hanging out would really help you mentally. I would talk to a friend who has a kid the similar age as yours. See if she would be willing to trade nights with each other so that you have the little one taken care of if you don't have other options.

  As for the ex, this is the tough part. He will be part of your life until well past adulthood of your child. The battles never end but I beg the two of you to do what you can to work together in the best interest of your child. Make a pact (many divorce and child custody agreements state this) to never talk poorly about the other to your son. Keep a positive spin even when you want to scream. Believe me its worth it because once your son is a teenager, he will find ways of pitting you against each other that you never imagined. Stick to the agreement but try to be flexible and cooperative if at all possible. This is much better for your child in the long run. I know for you this can create a great deal of stress and tension, but be sure to schedule yourself some alone time to enjoy your favorite activities.

  As for the laundry - it will get better if there is a reward system for doing chores. Set goals and don't make it instant gratification as they get older. You'll be thankful later. In the meantime, as someone who is parent to 3 teens, it gets better but then worse again!! Don't stress over it and just be thankful they are in your life. One day when they have left home, you will miss the chaos!

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  Posted by Jill_Marmon Wed Jul 8, 2009 11:48am PDT

  It's ok to get away. Sometimes that's what it takes to re-charge and

  re-new ourselves. I've taken time away from the kids to get back to me.

  You have to make time for yourself, and not be ashamed to say "I've had and I need some time alone." Treat yourself - you deserve it.

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  Posted by desilee19 Wed Jul 8, 2009 12:16pm PDT

  Anyone who doesn't ever want a break from everything is a loon. Or the Brady mother.

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  Posted by Kiki Wed Jul 8, 2009 12:46pm PDT

  Smiley79, I can SO RELATE. I have a 13yr. old, 16yr old and a man at home. I also have 2 sisters who feel just like you and me. My sisters and I pack up my SUV and head for the beach. We take our cooler fill it up with all types of goodies and we LAY OUT. NOTHING ELSE. We know just like they know that we are coming back, but you need that time away from EVERYONE. But you have to do it. You have to say, "I am going out for the day"(or night)hold it down and I will be back". THEN GO!!!

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  Posted by Leah Wed Jul 8, 2009 12:49pm PDT

  You are perfectly normal...lol...I promise. I survived being a single mom with 4 kids.

  Just keep telling yourself "this too shall pass".

  As for the boyfriend, let him know that if he isn't helping you, then he's hurting you.

  Good luck :)

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