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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

True Mom Confessions & Answers with Uncle Brett: 5 Reasons to let your son pee sitting down!


TMC:

My very dear friend taught her sons how to pee sitting down. She was a single mom and didn't know how to teach them standing up. They are now adults and from what she hears (most moms don't ask their adult sons how they piss) they can pee standing up just fine.
 

Uncle Brett says:

Kudos to this mom.  I strongly advocate teaching boys to pee sitting down. I pee seated most of the time myself: it's relaxing.  But besides its leisure benefits, I think it's also advisable for the following reasons:
1) It's a consistent approach that leads more naturally to the act of pooping sitting down, a transition with which some boys struggle based precisely on this artificial division.
2) It diminishes worries about aim.  Little boys have a hard enough time getting their foot into a shoe or their hand in a mitten, and that's pretty much a direct one-to-one match up.  Why give them carte blanche to freely wield their highly inaccurate urine gun--with the safety off--all over a room and fixture you're going to have to clean?
3) Not that I'm a doctor, or put total faith in the medical establishment, but I've seen some studies that claim that peeing seated is easier on the bladder.
4) If this practice were universally adopted, it would finally rid us of that tedious seat-up/seat-down struggle that every sitcom writer seems to think is the pinnacle of comedic genius.
5) The penis is seductive enough to a young boy.  I promise you that they'll figure out how it works and discover the pleasure they can derive from it without giving them an open excuse to fondle it five times a day. 

Brett
Berk, M.S.Ed has worked with young children and families for over twenty years, and is the author of The Gay Uncle's Guide to Parenting (Random House, 2008).  Visit him at www.askgayuncle.com


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  • Mimi-pz's Avatar
    Posted by Mimi-pz Fri Oct 24, 2008 6:30am PDT

    My boys pee sitting down most of the time too... and my oldest is 7.

    Much cleaner... although how they still manage to "miss" while sitting I'll never know!

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  • Thomas's Avatar
    Posted by Thomas Fri Oct 24, 2008 11:29am PDT

    I grew up in a house full of women. I was taught to pee sitting down. I remember the first time I realized what a urinal was for. I am still scarred by the event. Now, I have come to realise the beauty of choice. When I'm weary, I sit; if the bathroom is sketchy, I stand. It is the best of all possible peeing worlds. However, I wish I had been informed of my options prior to that first experience at Meadowbrook, to see the DSO, with Serge (my father), in the public bathroom. As I said, I'm still scarred.

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  • HotCrossBuns's Avatar
    Posted by HotCrossBuns Fri Oct 24, 2008 12:40pm PDT

    I taught my son to pee sitting down. It was just natural after 2 girls. But he actually did still have to be taught to aim downward even when seated, because otherwise he wasn't sitting back far enough and was letting the stream flow between the bottom of the seat and the rim of the bowl and onto the floor. After he went to 4yr old preschool and saw the other boys standing to pee, he decided to do the same. Now he just needs to be reminded to stay in one spot until the flow ceases! Sheesh!

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  • Tiffany's Avatar
    Posted by Tiffany Fri Oct 24, 2008 1:14pm PDT

    OMG!!! I almost fell out of my chair reading some responses. I taught my son to pee sitting down, mainly because I dont know how to pee standing up. Once he got the hang of that he seemed to be more open to standing while peeing (after catching his dad a few times). Let me tell yall, that little boy missed more sitting down than he does standing up, I am thinking it would go throught the seat and the bowl, now I just have to worry about him not paying attention and peeing in the direction he is looking, lol. He is only 5, I have so many more years to go.

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  • Becky's Avatar
    Posted by Becky Fri Oct 24, 2008 2:44pm PDT

    Learning to pee sitting down just makes more sense. What child when first using to learn to use the toilet is tall enough to reach properly anyway? I've been doing child care for 21 years and all my little boys have learned sitting down. They eventually graduate to standing.

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  • momo's Avatar
    Posted by momo Fri Oct 24, 2008 3:54pm PDT

    My son (9) also learned to pee sitting down. Then he was into standing up, until one time he was peeing standing and accidentally pooped his pants! (He was about 5). Thankfully, he learned to stand when there is no urge to poop, and will sit otherwise. It is nice to have the choice. BTW - he would DIE if he knew I was writing about this!

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  • KharaK's Avatar
    Posted by KharaK Sat Oct 25, 2008 1:00am PDT

    little little boys aren't too good at aiming yet and end up gettin it all on the floor and everywhere but in the toilet. But they'll get it. the key is patience. they r wondering why they have to use this big ugly toilet all of a sudden anyway.

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  • joannie g's Avatar
    Posted by joannie g Sun Oct 26, 2008 9:22am PDT

    As a single mom of 3 son's, I will share my tricks of "the aim" lol. My kids, as many, were scared to sit on the "big" toilet. So, I use to sit them on it facing backwards. This way, they couldn't fall in. The urine use to hit the back of the bowl and there was no shooting across the room with it. (that was very early potty training days). As time went on, and it was time to learn to be a "stander", I use to take a sheet of toilet paper, put a red marker dot on it and lay it in the water. They fought over who could hit the target! They absolutely LOVED pee'ing standing up and never, ever, missed! Now, best part was... you couldn't shoot at the target with the seat down, you "had" to lift the seat in order to make your mark! Hence, never did I ever have a problem with bad aiming, nor did I have a problem teaching little boy's how to stand and pee. Hope this helps you mom's out there that have little boys.

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  • stbdhead's Avatar
    Posted by stbdhead Sun Oct 26, 2008 12:25pm PDT

    My husband is a cross dresser. He ALWAYS pees sitting down. I am GLAD my son who is 6 prefers to stand...

    Besides that, the kid at school would get on a kid who does not act "normal" in the bathroom IMO.

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  • SomewhereGirl's Avatar
    Posted by SomewhereGirl Sun Oct 26, 2008 5:13pm PDT

    "The penis is seductive enough to a young boy. I promise you that they'll figure out how it works and discover the pleasure they can derive from it without giving them an open excuse to fondle it five times a day."

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