Teens trying to get pregnant

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  Posted by amandalee Mon Nov 2, 2009 5:00pm PST

  i would explain, out of my own experience of having my son at - barely 17, how hard it is to raise a child and that you would be so much more prepared to do it once you are working, in a daily schedule of responsible adult living, and in a relationship that is based on more than teenage love.

  Then I would crush up birth control pills and feed them to her secretly. :)

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  Posted by lil mmama Mon Nov 2, 2009 5:27pm PST

  Amandalee: you totally crack me up! :)

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  Posted by Yogurt Lover Mon Nov 2, 2009 5:46pm PST

  I totally believe in abortion.

  I have two members of my family that are under 18 who are currently pregnant. Ones mother lives on welfare and the other is homeless.

  This really saddens me. They just have no idea how expensive, time consuming and hard it is to be a parent.

  The thing that makes me even sadder... both of their mothers had kids when they were young. It seems like my family is spiraling out of control with poor decisions.

  I am the ONLY one in my family who did not have a child as a teenager and I am also the only one who has never been on welfare. I think that is a pretty disheartening fact.

  If I had a daughter and she was trying to get pregnant I would also secretly feed her birth control pills, get a psychologist involved and batten down the hatches in my home.

  What scares me is that I have two boys. I will be completely shattered if one of their teenage girlfriends gets pregnant and decides to NOT have an abortion. Honestly, if the girl decided to endure the pregnancy and keep the baby I would accuse her of ruining my son's life.

  As for right now... I just try to be the best parent I can be, be proactive in their lives, know their friends and talk to them about healthy sexual activity.

  People are just so stupid these days, especially teenagers... and with the Government allowing almost anyone of a lesser status to go on PA, what is to stop these kids from having baies?

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  Posted by Mira Jacob, Shine staff Tue Nov 3, 2009 10:19am PST

  Amandalee, HILARIOUS. (Me too!)

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  Posted by TaraM Tue Nov 3, 2009 10:31am PST

  I am 16 and at this age some of my friends (myself included) have this weird urge to have a baby. Not just the holding of a little thing in our arms but also the pregnancy part. Luckily we are smart enough to know that we do not have the money nor the time right now for a baby. However, we do plan to have children a year or two after high school (when we're 19 or 20) AND go to college at the same time. We will of course be married too. Maybe alot of girls have this urge but don't have the senses to wait.

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  Posted by becca Tue Nov 3, 2009 10:34am PST

  I don't understand why a teenager would WANT to get pregnate. Chances are, the guy isn't going to be any help at all. And she is going to miss out on a lot off stuff in her life. I mean, you can't really go to parties when you have a newborn at home. And what about school? It isn't getting easier and kids need a lot of attention. I think that any teenager that wants a kid needs to babysit a young baby and hopefully realize that they can't live with that 24/7.

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  Posted by Katie B Tue Nov 3, 2009 10:36am PST

  Well from what I hear from my mother in law (who is a high school teacher in a west texas) that some girls believe that it's a rite of passage and they will pressure their girl friends to have their boyfriends get them pregnant as well... and when I was in College I remember us watching a video hosted by Meredith Vieira talking about Welfare, in my Sociology... and there was one teenager (if I remember correctly because this was back in 2002 when I saw this, so I could be wrong) who got pregnant so she could get on welfare and was trying to get pregnant again so she could get more.

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  Posted by Mindy Tue Nov 3, 2009 10:55am PST

  Haha...TaraM...You are a moron. Married, have a baby and going to college...all at 19 or 20 huh? Good luck with that.

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  Posted by Magdolna1920 Tue Nov 3, 2009 11:04am PST

  There is a quite simple and wonderful solution that is often overlooked. Take your daughter to the OBGYN and ask that a Mirena IUD be put in place. It's good for up to 10 years, which will see your daughters into adulthood. No worrying they are "accidently" forgetting their pills or condoms. IUDs are so much better than they were back in the 70's. It's a one time cost and it's well worth it. Especially when you compare to the cost of 10 years of pills.

  BTW, my daughter is 20 and I am not a grandmother and won't be until she's good and ready. She will have to take a conscience action (i.e. go to the doctor to have the IUD removed) to be able to get pregnant. This was our best option. I hope you investigate it.

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  Posted by Mo B Tue Nov 3, 2009 11:23am PST

  I can't even begin to say how I would feel if my daughter in a few years tried to get pregnant, besides rage and disappointment that is. I hope that I am raising her to have enough sense to know that it comes with time and enjoy where and who you are now. Besides that I think her dad would kill her if she ever told him at 15 she was pregnant.

  I had her at 23 and to me that was to early, I had a lot of growing to do while I was a mom and saw my friends doing that in a much different way with out kids. I say wait til you have a steady job a great man and enough maturity to be able to raise a kid.

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