I've noticed that in this day and age self-respect is not as
popular as a pair of Manolo shoes or a Louis bag.
I've been inundated lately with emails from people sharing
videos of what they consider to be the funniest things. Most of
these videos are of parents taping their kids "dancing."
On the most recent video, it appears to be a kids birthday party.
Now when I say kids I mean 6 to 9, maybe 10 year olds, and in the
background reggaeton is playing. As a Latina woman I have to say
that what those videos show is a disgrace. It shows parents
standing around, cheering and encouraging their daughters to move
in ways I wouldn't move. In these videos girls
girate their bodies as the boys stand behind grinding on them.
At a point in time one of the girls goes on the floor with one of
the little boys on top of her. They're practically having sex
with their clothes on.
I was born in the Dominican Republic, to dance was one of the first
things I learned. When there wasn't any light, as it so often
was the case in the late 80s, dancing was the past time of our
choice. At that time the Lambada was IN, the moves shown on TV
looked cool and sexy but the adults would never let me dance it.
Why? Because it wasn't appropriate for a child.
So many parents complain about what kids are being taught in school
but what about what they are learning with family members at
parties? And then they wonder why at 13 their daughters and sons
are having children of their own!
Here's an example...What do you think? Would you encourage
your daughter, niece, sister, to dance like these girls?
http://royaltyfame.com/2009/09/wheres-r-kelly-at/
Teen Pregnancy...Are the Parents to Blame?
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Posted by Sun Sep 27, 2009 8:19pm PDT
Report AbuseI think sometimes parents contribute but it is ultimately the individual person's responsibility because it is there body not their parents. It is up to each individual to be responsible for one's actions however parents shouldn't make it easy for their teens to be irresponsible either. I think that all parents should have candid conversations with their children about sex and leave an open door so that if their child has questions that they feel comfortable to ask. I have a child that is about to go to middle school next year and I have already begun that discussion about sex and drugs. I plan to have open dialogue while at the same time giving my son guidelines of what I expect from him. I think a lot of time as parents we under estimate the influence that we have in our children's life.
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Posted by Mon Sep 28, 2009 8:38am PDT
Report AbuseOf course, many parents drop the ball when it comes to sex. Parents teach kids how to ride a bike, how to swing a bat, how to swim, etc. But they just assume kids will know about sex. Kids become curious about sex at a very young age. Parents should have " the talk" in the preteen years... 11 and 12. It's not too young. Ideally, it would be great if schools had a good, comprehensive sex ed curriculum , but they are costly and most teachers don't want to touch it for fear of a law suit.
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Posted by Mon Sep 28, 2009 8:44am PDT
Report AbuseOH HELL NO!!! I couldn't even get through the entire video. That was horrible. I am a dancer and there is no way I would encourage any child, mine or not, to dance this way. These kid's won't be kids for very long. So sad. I would have always held firm to my belief that parents are not always responsible for their teens' pregnancy but after you see something like that you realize that yes they could sometimes be the case.
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Posted by Mon Sep 28, 2009 8:45am PDT
Report AbuseYes, parents do contribute, but I will not stand idly by and watch any of my boys acting out lewd and lascivious scenarios in front of me. They know better than that. My husband and I have given "the talk" to all six of them, and we are very open about everything. I cannot say my sons are perfect, because while I'm preaching that they are, one of them is out there doing something stupid. But they have good heads on their shoulders, and I trust them. They know right from wrong and they know the consequences for doing wrong things. Parenthood is not an easy job. Never was and never will be. But with some patience, love and understanding, and a firm hand most things will work out for the better.
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