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Thursday, November 26, 2009
Oh No, He Didn't! The Things People Say to Pregnant Women: An iVillage Top 10
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- by iVillage, on Wed Jul 8, 2009 9:22am PDT
We asked iVillagers, "What's the weirdest, rudest or most
oblivious thing anyone has said to you while you were
pregnant?" Some of the responses were
flat-out funny , and some were enough to turn your hair
white—read 'em and weep.
1. A woman at the pool said, "You must be having a girl—they
say that girl babies steal their mother's beauty."
2. When we announced our pregnancy, my father-in-law said,
"It's about time, we were beginning to wonder if you
needed a biology lesson!" We'd been trying for a year, and
I'd been on fertility drugs for six months.
3. Last week the FedEx guy said, "After you, your load is
bigger than mine."
4. A week before I gave birth to my first
baby,
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these two snooty women walked up to me
and asked me to my face, "Why aren't you wearing
maternity clothes? Do you not believe in them?" And then they
walked off laughing at me. I was wearing maternity clothes! They
had just stopped fitting at that point!
5. This old lady at Target looked at me and shook her head. She
said, "You young girls need to see there are other things to
do in the winter, and you won't end up in your situation."
I told her I was in my mid 20s and had been married for 3 years and
that my "situation" was actually a blessing!
6. My sister-in-law told me today that if I go into labor on
Christmas Eve, she will "just have to miss it" because
she has to go to the mall for the sales.
7. My father-in-law said, "Real women don't need pain
medication during labor." I replied, "Real men know when
to keep their big mouths shut."
8. When I was getting out of the shower the other day, my hubby
said I look like a pregnant orangutan! Then he said he didn't
mean it in a bad way! How can you mean that in a good way?
9. On the morning of my 20-week ultrasound (which I was
understandably anxious about), I told a woman at work that I was
going later that day. She proceeded to tell me detail by detail
about her miscarriage 17 years ago.
10. When I was dealing with morning sickness and fatigue, my coworker had
the nerve to say, "I'm not sure I want to be seen with you
the way you look." And last Friday, she told me some days she
wonders if I've bothered to brush my hair, because it looks
like I'm having sex in the parking lot before work!
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Posted by mary Fri Jul 10, 2009 4:05pm PDT
i have twins everyone is either always bringing up how overly fertile i am and my husband better watch out (i took fertility drugs) or tell me about a dead twin they once knew... its weird
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Posted by Kay Fri Jul 10, 2009 8:22pm PDT
#7 is fantastic.
So far, no one's said anything crazy like any of that to me. But my extended family doesn't know yet, so that could SO change.
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Posted by m Fri Jul 10, 2009 9:09pm PDT
while i was pregnant i was still pretty petite, so i could still fit into normal clothes. But, everytime i went shopping with my mother-in-law she always would ask, "shouldn't you get a bigger size, you have to wear a bigger size than that!" As if i didn't already feel like a cow!
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Posted by L Fri Jul 10, 2009 9:19pm PDT
I don't know any "real men" who have given birth, so # 7 should have gotten a lesson in real pain for that one.
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Posted by ashley Sat Jul 11, 2009 12:50am PDT
Men are stupid. My husband told me I had pepperoni nipples then expected to get laid. He didn't. LOL.
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Posted by C Sat Jul 11, 2009 7:18am PDT
WTF is it with crabtastic old ladies in Target?
I was rougly 8 weeks before my due date and cleaning the house one Saturday morning. Broke my mop. Was in Target twenty minutes later deciding on a new mop.
Blue haired nitwit starts a loud rant about pregnant teenagers who drop out of high school and get knocked up and who'll be on welfare that she'll have to pay for, yada yada yada, and polishes it of with "yes, sweetcheeks, I AM talking about YOU (pointing at me)". To which I informed her that I was 30, married for 8 years, and probably have more education and have earned more money personally in a given year that she had ever done in her life, and MY paycheck deductions helped pay for her sorry azz social security check.
She then told me my Mother didn't give me any home training for my obvious lack of respect for elders. I told her that my Mother and Grandmothers taught me that respect was earned, not given. And walked off. To applause from a few bystanders.
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Posted by Jenny Sat Jul 11, 2009 7:40am PDT
Just cover up if you go out.
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Posted by Susan Sat Jul 11, 2009 7:45am PDT
No one ever said anything that rude to me during my pregnancy, but I did notice strangers' eyes darting to my hand, to check if I had a wedding ring I guess (I was 30 but looked quite young and I'm petite). But my fingers swelled from the beginning so I didn't wear my wedding ring during pregnancy. And a co-worker kept asking me if I was pregnant, before I had told anyone (I was waiting 3 months due to a previous miscarriage, the fact that we hadn't even told our parents or friends yet, and I wanted the first person at work to know to be my boss). I had to outright lie because she kept cornering me and asking me, and I wasn't ready to tell anyone yet. I also told her that it is considered very rude to ask a woman if she is pregnant. She obviously didn't know.
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