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Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Lice as Communication—Yes, You Read That Right.

And so the war continues. If you’ve been reading MG for a while, you’ll remember that last year, right around this time, my daughter came home from school with a lice infestation that prompted an eco-reversal on my part (read: Rid) and a style change on hers as she chopped her waist-length hair to a chin-skimming bob.

This year, apparently, it’s my 10-year-old son’s turn. My close-lipped, typically tweenage son who can barely tell me what he did all day, let alone let on when his head itches.

And here’s the kicker: He’s blonde.

Now if you’ve ever dealt with lice, you know what that means. Nits happen to be the exact shade of yellow—dare I say, blonde—as your child’s hair.

But having been through this once before with the brunette, I knew my weapon of choice. No, I didn’t repeatedly douse my three children’s heads with Rid, which contains an active ingredient–piperonyl butoxide–that’s the Environmental Working Group has indicated is a “low hazard” for cancer and reproductive toxicity, but still smells mighty toxic to me.

Although I did shampoo him to kill the critters that I saw crawling on my son’s scalp (plus the rest of the family, proactively), I then got to work with a more natural arsenal: A bottle of tea tree oil, and a fine toothed comb. Every morning for the past three days, I rub tea tree oil on my palms with a little water, then run my fingers around their hairlines—concentrating on the back of the neck and around the ears—to dissuade any stray bugs from trying to take up residence.

And each afternoon I wash their hair with regular shampoo, then sit them down in strong light to go through their hair strand by strand. I haven’t found any nits in my daughter’s dark brown hair, and I’m praying that the quick check of the wiggly Barnacle (read: baby) is thorough enough to confirm the same absence of wigglers of the insect variety, but each time I examine my son, I find a few more tiny—hopefully dead—eggs, which take about 15 minutes to pick out, one by one.

Ugh. But there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.

I dread this kind of infestation. I go crazy washing all the towels and sheets and hats in the house. But the reality is this: I hole up in the bathroom and my son—who usually ducks his head when I try to kiss him goodbye and will only let me hug him if no one else is looking—actually talks to me as I comb through is nit-masking blonde hair.

Yes, gentle readers, I’m using a pest infestation as a means to communicate with my tween. Have I no shame?

I hope that by today, I’ve got them all. But I’ll keep checking in the back-to-school weeks to come. I may not find any more lice, but at least my son and I will have a few days more of decent conversation before the wall of silence goes up again.

What’s your chem.-free method to combat lice and/or communicate with a tween or teen? Tell me about it!

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  • Martha's Avatar
    Posted by Martha Fri Sep 4, 2009 9:25am PDT

    I feel for you with the blonde...I have also struggled with an infestation a couple of times in the lives of my children and step-children. Although now there is a product that makes the nits "light up" and makes it a little easier to get them out of the hair especially if you've got a squirmer. And remember the one bit of soothing advice if the heebie-jeebies about it all strike anyone in the midst of lice infestation, "Anyone and everyone can get them, only effective cleaning gets rid of them!" Somehow it made me feel better that I was not the only person to ever have to cope with the problem. I'm glad you are keeping your sense of humor and finding the "rainbow" with your son.

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  • Jeffrey's Avatar
    Posted by Jeffrey Fri Sep 4, 2009 1:35pm PDT

    i know yall are looking for eco-friendly lice killers: but if you are broke here are two ways to kill lice that won't kill you pocket. Dillute a cup of bleach in a gallon of water and soak hair for 5 minutes, or use dog flea shampoo and leave sitting for the recommended time.

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  • Ann's Avatar
    Posted by Ann Fri Sep 4, 2009 10:17pm PDT

    Mayonaise is great for lice. Just cover the hair completely, pop on a shower cap, and let it soak for as long as the kids can stand it - about an hour or so. We went through the lice battles here for most of July, and mayo worked better for me than the over-the-counter poisons. I tried two different types of the poison treatments, both seemed to slow the lice down enough to comb out "most" of them, but they were still alive and I couldn't get them all. Mayo smothers them and I thought even made the nits easier to comb out, probably because the hair is so greasy. The only drawbacks are, I don't think it kills the nits so you have to be extra careful with combing them out; and you have to plan on at least a couple of shampoos to degrease their hair.

    Talking to a preteen boy, though, I am clueless on. My son is only 7 and I am already completely clueless about what is going on in his head.

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  • Regina C's Avatar
    Posted by Regina C Sat Sep 5, 2009 6:27am PDT

    I went through a lice infestation with my dark haired daughters and sadly there was no real conversation because I had lost my mind with the nightly ritual of looking through their incredibly thick and long hair. This went on for three weeks. There is a less poisonous way to "drown" the lice: Olive Oil. Buy the cheapest olive oil in a large can from your local produce store and saturate the kids hair and then wrap it with whatever you can to try to stop the oil leak. Leave it on overnight and do this again and again for the life cycle of the lice which I think is 10 days (check this as it was 5 years ago that this happened to us). I believe there is also some kind of non toxic Rid now as well as a dye for the eggs which makes them neon or something easy to see. I am happy to hear you are communicating with The Quiet Man, after his lice is gone I recommend trying anything to get him to talk, though most males stop talking at the onset of puberty, probably a hormonal effect, there are some who will respond to certain triggers, you just need to find what that is as it is different for each kid. Also you could shave the boys head, it is acceptable for males but not for girls. Good luck!

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  • Abigail's Avatar
    Posted by Abigail Sat Sep 5, 2009 7:10am PDT

    My oldest daughter had lice by spring 2 years ago and I tried everuthing, from rid, Nic and mayo, until finally I cut her beautifull long hair. The last thing and most effective beleive me it work, I went to a health store and bought Thursday Plantation Lice removal first to get rid of the lice and eggs. I also bought the shampoo based on tea tree oil and eucaliptus, but to keep the treatment everytime I wash her hair I used vinegar it changes her Ph which lices don't like. Sometimes I spray on to her head Ilang Ilang and eucaliptus all together in a bottle.

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  • Abigail's Avatar
    Posted by Abigail Sat Sep 5, 2009 7:12am PDT

    Vinegar with every hair wash and after that, eucaliptus and Ilang Ilang

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  • momof4's Avatar
    Posted by momof4 Sat Sep 5, 2009 9:04pm PDT

    I use mouth wash from the dollar store. soak their hair, pop on a shower cap and let it sit for about 2 hours. repeat every four or five days. vinegar helps loosen the eggs so that they are easier to comb out but my kids can't stand how bad it stings.

    My twelve year old son talks so much we beg him to shut up! Anything he doesn't tell us he tells his sisters who then tell us. I hope it lasts.

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  • tcjb's Avatar
    Posted by tcjb Sun Sep 6, 2009 6:13pm PDT

    This is not a remedy as much as a way to keep from getting them. Spray the hair with hairspray. Pay special attention to the hairline underneath as well as around the ears. The hairspray makes it harder for the lice to attach to the hair. You may still get them but it will be harder. This is a secret of many teachers.

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  • S. W's Avatar
    Posted by S. W Sun Sep 6, 2009 6:21pm PDT

    I use cheap conditioner in white or light pink with a few drops of tea tree oil added. After having my kiddo sit in the tub of warm water, I slather this mixture on her head and let her sit for about 15 minutes. Anything live, is now paralyzed and easy to comb out with a metal egg comb. I then part her hair in 4 sections and go through each section with the egg comb, rinsing in the bath water, until I have gone over her entire head. Then we rinse with a sprayer or under the faucet and she's done for the day. I repeat this every day for 3 days, then decrease combings to every 3 days. Wash all bedding in warm water and dry in a hot dryer and I'm done. If she has stuffed toys on the bed, they get a short trip through the dryer, but that's it.

    Since the last lice infestation earlier this summer at day camp, she's used the tea tree oil added to the conditioner as a cream rinse to deter any new bugs

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  • Ro's Avatar
    Posted by Ro Mon Sep 7, 2009 9:45am PDT

    My poor niece gets them from other family members children over & over. :( One thing I have noticed is using a hair drier can get rid of them but of course you still have the nit picking to do still. And the oils work well but you really have to make the time to work to get rid of them.

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