Crying it out vs. Comfort: Capessa hits the streets to talk to moms about how they best deal with their crying babies.
Now that these women have shared their opinions, we want to know what you think. What do think is best for your child?
Report AbuseMy babies are no longer babies, but when they were, the quickness of my reaction depended on their cry. If it was a hungry cry, I'd put what I was doing aside and get the boob/bottle ready. If it was a tired/bored cry and I was already busy doing something, I'd let it go a little while and see if they settled themselves before running to their side(s). If it escalated to an inconsolable "I've had enough of this and I want my momma", I'd put down what I was doing and go and get them.
If it was a hurt or unidentifiable cry, I'd drop whatever I was doing and be at their side in an instant.
I had one colicky baby and I held her most of the time just to keep her (and me) from crying constantly. But once she was past that stage and we figured out that it was a food intolerance that was causing it (who knew some babies can't tolerate even breastmilk!?)...it was right back to the same routine of waiting to see if she could soothe herself.
It's really just the same as it is now that they're big kids...if it's something they can eventually take care of themselves, then I try to let them take care of it themselves. But I was lucky and had babies who went right to sleep without fuss or argument from the time they were newborns.
I think I'd have had different standards if I had had hysterical babies.
Report AbuseI agree with EVERYTHING you said...I never had a colicky baby so I don't know about that! The more confident and secure of a baby/toddler that you raise, the stronger of "big kid" they are going to be...independent, wise - able to handle themselves....
Report AbuseI don't like to hear my baby cry. I run over to see what is wrong as soon as he cries. I don't think that this is spoiling because that is the only way to express themselves. I know my mom told me that it is not good to let a baby under 6 weeks old to cry because it puts a strain on the umbillical cord. But even after then, I still hate to hear him cry, I consider myself his need for comfort, and I am here to supply just that; comfort.
Report AbuseI picked up my children every time they cried and they all have become secure responsible adults. I pick up my grandchild everytime also and so does my daughter. I advocate picking up versus crying.
Report AbuseGo to your baby. Comfort and care for your child when it cries. If the baby is crying it needs something. A tiny baby's need to be held, rocked, soothed and comforted is just as valid a reason as a boo-boo, a fear or hunger.
My son was always comforted - even now - he is almost 5 now and is secure,confident and happy. He still likes mom and dad to be with him from time to time at night - but he is the one to always say "Oh its bedtime mommy, nite nite" on his way up the stairs. He usually wants to go to bed before his bedtime as he likes when we lay in his bed with him and tell him stories.
Report Abuserecently i have been doing the same thing hotcrossbuns did. it seems to work very well, and my 7 month old knows exactly what he wants, and knows how to tell me within his cries.
Report AbuseIf a baby cries, it means there's something wrong with him/her.
Don't ignore, mother should be there all the time. that is love.
Report AbuseI pick my son up when he cies. He is four months old and I know thsat one day hje will not want or need me. I enjoy being a source of comfort to him. Nothing quiets him like seeing me or hearing my voice.
Similarly nothing brightens my day like his toothless grin.
Report AbuseI picked my daughter up everytime she cried when she was first born...but when she got to be about 8 months id let her cry for awhile when it was bed time..id rock her to sleep then put her in her bed and leave. And ofcourse shed wake up as soon as i was out of sight and start crying but only for about 5 mins then she was off the slep again till the morning. Since then she knows when it time to go to bed, shell look at me and say "bath?" and head straight for the bathroom! (i have her on a very tight schedule so she knows when its time to eat, nap and go to bed) Then after bed time i lay her in her bed and she falls right to sleep, sometimes before i even leave her room! And shes only 15 months! So i think iam very blessed! Other friends of mine have kids and they have the hardest time getting them to sleep..i think its all about trying to have your kids on a schedule from the time they are born. cause i know when my daughter cries she really needs something!
Report AbuseMy daughter is about to be 2months. I pick her up immediately when she cries. I know her hunger cry from her I want attention and even the cry that she has gas. I feel babies should be comforted and shown that you care and you love them. I have a public health nurse and her advice is if you do answer her cries she knows she can trust you. That's very important to me that my daughter even so young can trust that I will give her what she needs. Babies and toddlers depend on us as mothers. I do know there is a line when they get a little older that you can't answer every cry they should learn how to sooth their selfs as well. I have my daughter on a schedule and she knows when bed time is. I just wish it was a little earlier in the night. lol
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