Do we say "No!" too much?

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  Posted by Beth Wed Jul 8, 2009 7:19am PDT

  "Is using "no" over and over damaging in any way?"

  Not being a child psychologist I don't know how it affects the kid but hearing constant and repeatative "no, no, no" from mothers in public seriously messes with MY hearing.

  Quickly gets to the point where I don't care what the kid is doing (as long as he/she isn't about to hurt themselves). I just want you to SHUT UP!

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  Posted by cindy Wed Jul 8, 2009 8:24am PDT

  NO

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  Posted by MistressMinx Wed Jul 8, 2009 8:49am PDT

  I think "no" isn't used often enough. Or, at least not that the kid takes it seriously. They just keep asking until mom gives in. That is why we have to say "no" so much. When I was a kid, and I raised my daughter the same way - if I have to say "no" more than once, you get swatted on the butt, or another punishment. Pretty soon, once you say "no" they know you mean it and don't ask again.

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  Posted by Katie B Wed Jul 8, 2009 9:09am PDT

  I would think that No is the simplest and most effective way to get the point across in such a way that is understood by all children... but that's just my opinion.

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  Posted by Brianna Wed Jul 8, 2009 9:17am PDT

  Thats true... hmm my two year old knows what no is her curiosity makes her do things she isn't supposed to do so over time saying no is good but uh I think we parents gots to explain saying NO NO No isn't a word to say all day.. okay can we start a new discussion?? ;)

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  Posted by cindy Wed Jul 8, 2009 9:31am PDT

  How many times do you have to say it before you spank? If you say it 10 times and never spank a butt or swat a hand, then you do overuse it.

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  Posted by Hollina Wed Jul 8, 2009 10:08am PDT

  NO TO THE MOM in this picture and NO TO SHINE for using this picture. Bumbo, which is the chair the child is sitting in is not safe to put on an elevated surface such as a table, because a child can tip the chair over and fall to the floor. The product was recalled about a year ago because several children were injured that way. The Bumbo is now back on the market with a warning not to use on an elevated surface.

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  Posted by Sarah J Wed Jul 8, 2009 12:36pm PDT

  I avoided the use of "no" w/ my toddler simply to avoid that becoming a standard response for her to try to use against me. People wonder why toddlers just starting to speak run around saying "no no no no no" to everything you tell them to do or ask them, well - if they learn from hearing what did they hear you saying to them. And lets be real you have to tell a toddler some version of "no" alot just to keep them safe.

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  Posted by Tiffany Wed Jul 8, 2009 5:12pm PDT

  yes cuz i tell my 18 month old no and she will turn around and look at me and say no no no no no

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  Posted by JoKTM Thu Jul 9, 2009 6:39am PDT

  If your toddler keeps on saying "no, no, no" to you, then you use it to much. It is a very easy word for a child to say. Children who say "NO" at the age of 1 1/2 dont really understand the word. I know parents believe they do but when your child says No and ask them if they want there dolly, they will say NO.

  Most child care providers try not to use that word because you will have an entire class saying NO to everything.

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