Do we have the right to judge if Sarah Palin can juggle work and family?

By Sarah Fisher, from Work It, Mom!

Reuters via Yahoo! News

Reuters via Yahoo! News

There are, for sure, many unanswered questions about Sarah Palin for Vice President. I have a list of about 50 that I'm not sure last night's speech answered. There is, however, one thing about her that remains clear: Sarah Palin is a working mom.

But, because she happens to be a working mom with young kids, a lot of young kids, and because she's vying for the second-highest office in the nation, the mommy war flames have been ignited all over again. Everyone seems to be questioning whether or not she could possibly be Vice President AND be a mother to her children at the same time. And everyone has an opinion.

The New York Times found a way to create a front page story on the matter with subjective quotes from working moms all over the country, who want to give their two cents on if she can handle the campaign and her family.

In the article, one mom, Christina Henry de Tesan, a mother of two in Portland, Ore. said,

You can juggle a BlackBerry and a breast pump in a lot of jobs, but not in the vice presidency.

OK, she might be right, but she might be wrong. When moms are asked to opine on the way other moms work, our conversation becomes a subjective one, not a productive one.

Yes, breastfeeding at work is hard. But maybe Palin can figure out a way to bring that pump on one of the country's Air Force jets. Gee, pumping in a private room on a government airplane sure sounds a lot easier than squeezing yourself into a MD-80 lavatory. And if she doesn't want to breastfeed at all? Well, that's her prerogative too.

But that's besides the point. I don't really care so much if Palin thinks it's better to be in Minnesota holed up in her hotel room than with her baby while she prepares for her speeches. We have all had times when we've burned the midnight oil and put other, more important responsibilities aside. I think it's unfortunate that she promotes abstinence yet her daughter had an unplanned pregnancy, but I'm not sure it would have mattered had she worked or not.

Much has been made about how Palin went back to work three days after her special needs child was born. Does this seem odd? Yes, very. But would I use it as a yardstick to pass judgment on whether or not she could be the VP of our country? No, it's not really relevant in my opinion. I mean, my husband went back to work three days after my son was born and no one batted an eyelash. But because we judge mothers who have demanding jobs in a different light, it's all of a sudden the worst decision ever made.

I'm not advocating that Palin be our next Vice President. I'd rather have morning sickness for the next five months than see this ticket voted into office.

But I also don't think it's fair for the media to solicit irrelevant opinions and create Mommy War drama around how Palin manages her work/ life balance. It's hard to separate a woman's career from her motherhood, but as long as the media continues to throw the Mommy Wars in our faces, we as women aren't going to get through the "18 million cracks." Which is why I'm going to turn off my computer and tune into the television to see what she has to say as a candidate, not as a mother.

Sarah blogs at Moms on Issues at Workitmom.com, an online community for working moms.

For another blogger's take on Sarah Palin, read Why Sarah Palin is good for feminism.
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  • Cherish's Avatar
    Posted by Cherish Wed Sep 3, 2008 9:00pm PDT

    No we do not and I think its hypocrytical for Hillary supporters to be attacking her. I am an avid Hillary supporter and I beleive that Hillary should be the President of this great nation. Palin does not compare to Clinton, but she beats Nancy Pelosi anyday. Women need to stick together and stop attacking one another. Thanks to Geraldine and Hillary Clinton and the women before them its plausible that Palincould be VP. That in itself it remarkable.

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  • Teresa's Avatar
    Posted by Teresa Wed Sep 3, 2008 9:12pm PDT

    She seems she has it all together. If she can handle 5 kids, one going to iraq, one pregnant teenager, a BABY which ALSO has down syndrome and being the governor of Alaska then by all means SHE CAN and IS capable of running this country, TRUST ME. I know most men(or all?) couldn't handle it!

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  • WilliamM's Avatar
    Posted by WilliamM Thu Sep 4, 2008 6:28am PDT

    If she were a Democrat, we'd be hearing her praises from every feminist in the country: a strong, successful woman who's done more than most men with her life. Since she's not, though, we'll only hear what's wrong with her.

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  • Isis's Avatar
    Posted by Isis Thu Sep 4, 2008 7:54am PDT

    The comments made by you first three are remarkable, and I commend you on your efforts to push us women forward not back!

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  • PORKCHOP's Avatar
    Posted by PORKCHOP Thu Sep 4, 2008 7:57am PDT

    Yes we have the right. She put herself out there. she wants to run the country I live in... YES, I HAVE THE RIGHT.

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  • guero's Avatar
    Posted by guero Thu Sep 4, 2008 10:45am PDT

    FORGET WHATS WRONG WITH HER...ALL SHE DID IS LASH OUT AT OBAMA...HELLO? WHAT IS SHE GOING TO DO WHEN SHE GETS IN THE WHITE HOUSE, WHAT ARE HER VIEWS WHERE DOES SHE STAND? ANYBODY CAN GET UP ON A STAGE AND CRITCISE

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  • WilliamM's Avatar
    Posted by WilliamM Fri Sep 5, 2008 4:58am PDT

    Beadbunny, certainly we have the right to criticise her. But can't we do it on better grounds than this one? Can't we talk about her qualifications---which are not nonexistant, as many seem to insist, but ARE a bit thin for President, which role she MIGHT have to take on one day? Can't we talk about her views and what they might mean for the nation or at least segments of the citizenry? Why has it got to be the same old tired personal stuff?

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