Friday, November 27, 2009

Buying less stuff hasn't made me less happy

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By Nataly Kogan from Work It, Mom!



Do you buy too much stuff?

My answer to this question would have been "probably yes" before we took on our BIG life change and traded in an overpaid job for a new career as an entrepreneur.


I've always been pretty frugal. I grew up without money, lived on welfare when my family immigrated to the U.S., and those experiences influenced me to always try to spend less, not buy things we don't need, and to generally be conservative about money. But even with that foundation, once my husband and I had a solid income we bought things we didn't need. Nothing big or fancy, but a cute T-shirt here, a fun DVD there, an awesome new toy for our daughter -- all of these added up to a bunch of stuff we don't really need.

We've become much more disciplined about our spending while I pursue my entrepreneurial dreams, and you know what? It's not made us any less happy or more stressed. Sure, last week I saw this amazing pair of boots I REALLY wanted to buy but not giving in to my desire and instead doing the responsible thing -- not buying them -- actually made me feel OK. Not buying things I don't absolutely need removes any buyer regret (say, for that incredible pair of high-heeled shoes I paid too much for and wore exactly once) and makes me feel proudly economical vs. wasteful.

OK, I am painting a slightly rosier picture. I'd love to have a bit more spending freedom and not agonize so much over each purchase. But in these times of economic turmoil (understatement of the year, I know), I am glad we've become practiced in our more frugal ways.

Do you tend to buy too much stuff? Are you changing your habits now that the economy is doing poorly?


Nataly Kogan is the co-founder and CEO of Workitmom.com, an online community and helpful resource for working moms.

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  • Wendy's Avatar
    Posted by Wendy Wed Oct 1, 2008 12:07pm PDT

    I started looking online for stuff I could do from home and found some great places. I have made a list of places that I have used (only free ones), I know they're all legit because I don’t list them until I've been paid by them. I do have survey sites listed; only the ones that I know for sure work. I also have 2 drop shippers listed, one is Ebay Certified and it works flawlessly. I’ve had great success with it. Nothing to lose by looking, it’s free to get started. You can see my list and details on these places at http://www.freewebs.com/free2workathome/

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  • Amanda's Avatar
    Posted by Amanda Thu Oct 2, 2008 7:36am PDT

    When we were living overseas and made more money we bought so much stuff we didnt really need, if we hadnt maybe we would be out of debt (its low anyway) or have more in savings. But since we came back to the U.S. we have tightend up and your right I feel much better when Im able to resist something I really dont need. And by spending less throughout the year we have been able to make birthdays and Christmas so much more special by getting things for eachother that we really wanted instead of just getting everything we want when we see it. It really makes it worth the wait.

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  • Shelley's Avatar
    Posted by Shelley Sun Oct 5, 2008 11:39am PDT

    Living overseas definitely puts the focus on where necessities lie. Imagine not knowing what Wal-Mart was! Too much "stuff" depletes our time, and energy, let alone our finances. I have quit my teaching job and am attempting to cleanse my evil room of all of the paraphernalia that accompanies the teaching profession. I love books, but I have yet to go back and read any of them twice. Thus, I have donated them to the local library. Little by little, my dystress level is lifting and a sense of control is returning. Being able to say "no" to our own vice of overspending is an absolute powerful feeling!

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