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  Posted by Bridget B. Wed Jul 23, 2008 8:04am PDT

  Hello Emily... I understand how you feel. I used to be the receptionist who was responsible for everything no one in the office wanted to do. I no longer work there but I became the executive assistant to the CFO for a few years before I left. How I accomplished this was to be proactive. I would sit down with my supervisor with a written list of issues I'm having and gave suggestions to correct the actions. The office eventually began to respect me as I commanded it. My motto was to never make a complaint without a solution, always begin your sentences with positive feedback and offer corrective solutions to keep from going backwards. Hey even ask for a performance review from those other department heads to determine what you could to do make a smoother work environment for EVERYONE. The key to this is to speak up the first time something rattles your chains. If after you've exhausted all avenues with no good results...you must look for employment elsewhere. Maybe you're not a good fit there... some company cultures are nasty and you're too good for them!

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  Posted by Rowdygirl Wed Jul 23, 2008 9:31am PDT

  I totally understand your feelings.. been there, done that. You have to remember that some people elevate themselves by treating others poorly. It's sad, but true. Nothing you can do about it, it's just a fact. Be as nice as you can, and try to keep a smile on your face. I KNOW how hard that can be, but the upside will be that the meanies won't get the best of you. Being upset or letting them see you sweat will do nothing but make them happy.. and you sure don't want that to happen. :)

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  Posted by tarabz Wed Jul 23, 2008 12:52pm PDT

  I used to deal with that alot and basically I just told myself that it's not personal- they're just a moron!!! That always made me feel better. I think it's better to hold your tongue. I did and they wound up promoting me and we are on an even keel and they no longer play the passive agressive game with me but if they did- I can now say something since we are on equal job levels. Stick it out! You can look for other employment but you'll get the same old bs.

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  Posted by Jasmine Wed Jul 23, 2008 2:11pm PDT

  OMG I'M GOING THRU THAT RIGHT NOW! I HAVE A SUPERVISOR WHO TOTALLY THINKS I'M HERE TO TAKE HER SPOT OR SOMETHING! SHE GOES BEHIND MY BACK AND TELLS MY BOSS THINGS THAT SHE SHOULD CONFRONT ME WITH! ITS SO FUSTRATING B/C YOU FEEL LIKE UR ON EGG SHELLS CONSTANTLY! AND I FEEL LIKE I DO WHAT I'M SUPPOSE TO DO BUT SHE ALWAYS SEEMS TO FIND ME SLIPPIN! "O SHE WALKED IN AT 8:01 AND SHE IS SUPPOSE TO BE HERE AT 8!"

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  Posted by Mimi Wed Jul 23, 2008 11:28pm PDT

  I am dealing with a Passive Aggressive person myself... It is so frustrating. The woman is the seller of a property i have been trying to buy for the last year. i am a Realtor(r)and to make a long story short, I moved into the home prior to closing, and was a victim of cc fraud while my loan docs were being drawn, so they were cancelled last minute. i moved in to help keep the sellers from getting behind in their payments, but they did anyway. they are divorcing and can't be in the same room. My new lender did not like the old appraisal, and prices have dropped considerably. the seller is pissed off and the bank wants to foreclose on them. for 3 months i paid the sellers mortgage amount for rent. they financed 110% so their payments are astronomical! our original contract was rescinded, and now the wife will only talk to me regarding rent. She will not address a sale at all. I got so upset, i had to hire another agent to rep me, or i might be unprofessional!

  The court has ordered a sale, and she just won't respond to our offer

  at all. we decided if she won't address my offer, i won't address a rental agreement, or pay rent. She did try to serve process to evict, but she has no clue as to the proper method, so my attorney shot her down. but that is all. it has been almost an entire month and nothing.

  the truth of the matter is like the rest of the nation, she is upside down i n her loan and has 2 choices sell to me, or get foreclosed upon... Seems simple, right? She has divorce brain, and is about to cut her own throat out of spite. Not doing anything is NOT a choice.

  I don't know what to do. they say passive aggressive behavior is a form of abuse, designed to make the opponent crazy.

  Any ideas??

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