WHAT CAN I DO???

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  Posted by JoKTM Sat Sep 19, 2009 4:41pm PDT

  I agree that your dad was an A$$ for walking out on you. You have every right to be angry. Your dads family will always stick up for because they believe that is the right thing to do. Remember bitterness is bad for you. Bitterness can seriously raise your blood pressure and you don't need that. Tell you aunt that you are pissed that your dad acted like a two yr. old and walked out! Let her know that he hurt you and you require a REAL apology from him before you initiate contact yourself.

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  Posted by siri Sat Sep 19, 2009 5:13pm PDT

  Your dad was in your life for 15 years... I don't know exactly what happened beside he's getting married in February. I also know that you stopped loving him when he left. It's ok to feel hurt and betrayed by your dad, that's expected, but perhaps you may just want to give your dad a call and tell him, express to him, exactly how you feel. Let 'em know you're pissed off. Let 'em know you're going out of your way to contact him and you're the child not the adult. You didn't create this mess he did.

  I'm sorry your hurting. But... you're not the first or last teen whose dad or mom decided to move on. I also don't know your parents situation. However, I do know you didn't stop loving your dad. That's not true. You're just really pissy with him right now for what he's done. And explain to him directly you do not want to attend the wedding and why. Hear 'em out and give 'em the benefit of the doubt. I can't put blame on him or bad mouth him 'cause I don't know what happened. But you need to speak to him directly and let out that anger you're keeping inside. Good luck and try really hard to hear him. You don't have to agree with him but hear 'em. If you still feel the same way - then it's his loss - not yours.

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  Posted by golf diva Sat Sep 19, 2009 5:39pm PDT

  Stop worrying about your father. Get on with your own life! If you are successful and attractive, everyone, including your Dad, will go out of their way to seek your company. Become someone who makes people around her feel great about themselves. If you want your father in your life, he will be coming around soon enough. Meanwhile, you will get better and stronger everyday through education, work, meeting life's challenges, and enjoying your hobbies and talents. There is better company for you. Focus on being a terrific employee, a trusted friend, and an accomplished woman. Find yourself a more worthy surrogate father, someone you can admire. There are lots of wonderful people out there besides Dad. Associate with those you want to emulate. Be helpful, generous, and thoughtful towards them. Don't complain about things or be "needy". Cultivate a support group of "can do", knowledgeable acquaintances. Life is too short to go around being miserable. Don't waste it. Count your blessings and be grateful for them. Start being interested in others besides yourself, and others will look forward to being with you, maybe even your dad. If he still ignores you, then it will be his loss, not yours.

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  Posted by anthonyw Sat Sep 19, 2009 5:58pm PDT

  i have to agree with golf diva. Dont worrt about your father. your 17 and u have other things to worry about like school. weither its high school or college thats what u should be focusing on. i dont think you should elimate him from your life but you shold keep tabs on him. you aint got to talk to him but just deal with him from a far. i do wish you luck with your situation.

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  Posted by Johnese Sat Sep 19, 2009 6:21pm PDT

  I THANK EVEYRONE FOR RESPONDING TO MY POST AND I'LL TAKE YALL ADVICE AND LIFE...THANK YOU...PEACE...

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