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Thursday, November 26, 2009

How to improve your email etiquette

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Recently, I started using an old family friend as a travel agent. Before then, we’d never had occasion to email one another. From the start, I was shocked to find that she regularly wrote her emails exclusively in all uppercase letters. I politely mentioned that using all caps in an email is the equivalent of screaming in voice conversations and she said she appreciated the tip. Still, I couldn’t help wondering how a professional could get by today without mastering one of the most basic tenets of email manners.

And that’s not the only email etiquette breach that makes me scratch my head. Every time I have to scroll through 50 email addresses before reading a message from a colleague who used the cc rather than bcc function, I find myself wishing that some kind of licensing or training were required before people were allowed to get on email.

Since that’s never going to happen, here are a few ways to ensure that your email style makes you look as smart as possible and doesn’t annoy those on the receiving end of your messages.

Change the subject line every time you start a new conversation. The email subject line should tell the reader what the message is about. So if an email strand about “next Thursday’s meeting” suddenly morphs into a discussion about “Mary’s retirement party,” consider changing the subject line. Having descriptive subject lines helps people quickly scan their inbox to decide which messages to read first and also helps when searching for a message after a conversation has ended.

Don’t use email when another medium makes more sense. Use email only when it's the best method. In many work cultures (like at Yahoo!), instant messaging is popular for quick conversations and sending links back and forth. If you know a colleague is on the road a lot and more likely to see a text message than an email, then use text messaging. If you know someone is at her desk and might not check an email about a meeting change in half an hour, the old-fashioned land line might be the best choice.

Answer questions inline. When someone sends an email asking several questions, train yourself to reply inline, inserting your answers directly beneath each question. (Hat tip to Gina Trapani).

Don’t get the last word in.  There is usually no reason to cap off a long exchange with "thank you" (and certainly, "you're welcome").  An email conversation has to end at some point.

Use the cc function sparingly. Try to cc only those who need to know and avoid cc-ing long lists of people unless it is important that everyone know who else received a message. Certainly don’t use the cc function if you don’t want people on the list to know the names of the other people receiving the same message.

Keep it brief.  When was the last time you read a work-related email and wished it was longer?

Ask whether people prefer attachments or inline pasting. Many people dislike receiving attachments, but it's good to ask someone's preference if you're going to be sending documents back and forth. Consider tools that allow two people to share and work on a document together rather than attachments.  I’m a big fan of Google Docs for this purpose. Gina Trapani turned me onto two other tools -- Zoho and Approver -- that also allow collaborators to share documents.

Give up cutesy handles. Try to stay as close to your name or a shorthand for your name as possible. "Purtygrl" might be just fine for your online dating life, but give it up when you're corresponding about work matters.

Use personal email for personal correspondence
. That includes job searching.

Say no to chain letters and jokes. While the rare forwarded email evokes a smile or a warm feeling, they are mostly irritating. And while you expect those emails from your batty aunt, you don’t want to be getting them from professional contacts.

Avoid shared email addresses. Do not share an email with a spouse or partner (either the professional or the business kind.) Grown-ups should have their own email addresses.

What are some of the worst email mistakes you find people still make?
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  • Ng's Avatar
    Posted by Ng Tue Jun 30, 2009 4:40pm PDT

    Thumbs up, this post is really useful! But the real issue is being disciplined to stick to some of the basic guidelines of email etiquette.

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  • PATT K's Avatar
    Posted by PATT K Tue Jun 30, 2009 7:41pm PDT

    There's a big difference between work email and personal email. I agree that with work email, short, sweet and to the point and very plain is the best. But if I'm doing a personal email to friends and family. I'm going to be me and that may include stationary and whatever else I think will liven up my email. If you don't like it. Ask to be taken off my email list and I will be happy to do that for you. When I read the article it sounded, to me anyway, that it was geared more toward the work email.

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  • smallz's Avatar
    Posted by smallz Wed Jul 1, 2009 2:58am PDT

    I actually follow alot of these rules already. But some are very helpful. I've always wondered if it was polite to ask people to stop forwarding jokes and cutesy stuff to me.

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  • Sheelah N's Avatar
    Posted by Sheelah N Wed Jul 1, 2009 11:06am PDT

    Please cut the slang and text talk. You have an infinite amount of space to use, so pls dnt tlk like ur 6teen.

    L8ter.

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  • Michael's Avatar
    Posted by Michael Wed Jul 1, 2009 3:24pm PDT

    Spell check!! Most all e-mail programs and websites have a spell checker of some kind. It takes a second to run through the message and find potential errors. Please, consider it before clicking the send button. I wish it were mandatory!!

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  • Lane Lester's Avatar
    Posted by Lane Lester Wed Jul 1, 2009 4:18pm PDT

    If this is supposed to help people who lack knowledge, an explanation of BCC is needed in addition to the criticism of the overuse of CC.

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  • Jorge C's Avatar
    Posted by Jorge C Wed Jul 1, 2009 4:33pm PDT

    Use the "no reply required" to avoid those "thank you" replies. I think 95% of emails teasers I see in my task toolbar are deleted instead of being opened, "thank you" emails are useless.

    Also... include a "do not print if unnecessary". I just hate when someone comes to comment an email I just sent with the email printed!!! i could see it in the monitor!

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  • bimplebean's Avatar
    Posted by bimplebean Wed Jul 1, 2009 4:38pm PDT

    My pet peeve - people who send a brief question or say a short thing in the subject of the email but leave the body of the email empty. My first thought at seeing these is 'huh?' It takes me a second.

    I know someone somewhere said this was OK, and polite, and a timesaver, but when I see it it drives me nuts.

    Also big co-sign on the brevity advice. Sometimes it takes LONGER to write a shorter note -- first write it, then edit/trim it, but very often the extra work is worth it. If nothing else it shows respect to the recipient that you took the time to craft a message that is to the point and saves them time.

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  • James's Avatar
    Posted by James Wed Jul 1, 2009 5:50pm PDT

    When forwarding an email you received from a friend or business contact, please delete the friend's name and header info before hitting the "send" button.

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  • Dorothy's Avatar
    Posted by Dorothy Wed Jul 1, 2009 6:19pm PDT

    This goes along with the reminder to use the right medium:

    If you receive an e-mail indicating a lack of understanding or concurrence, DO NOT add to an ever-escalating string of e-mails. The rule I give my employees: Don't be the second person to display annoyance. Pick up the dang phone and CALL the person, or walk over and SPEAK to her!

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