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Thursday, November 26, 2009

How to improve your email etiquette

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Recently, I started using an old family friend as a travel agent. Before then, we’d never had occasion to email one another. From the start, I was shocked to find that she regularly wrote her emails exclusively in all uppercase letters. I politely mentioned that using all caps in an email is the equivalent of screaming in voice conversations and she said she appreciated the tip. Still, I couldn’t help wondering how a professional could get by today without mastering one of the most basic tenets of email manners.

And that’s not the only email etiquette breach that makes me scratch my head. Every time I have to scroll through 50 email addresses before reading a message from a colleague who used the cc rather than bcc function, I find myself wishing that some kind of licensing or training were required before people were allowed to get on email.

Since that’s never going to happen, here are a few ways to ensure that your email style makes you look as smart as possible and doesn’t annoy those on the receiving end of your messages.

Change the subject line every time you start a new conversation. The email subject line should tell the reader what the message is about. So if an email strand about “next Thursday’s meeting” suddenly morphs into a discussion about “Mary’s retirement party,” consider changing the subject line. Having descriptive subject lines helps people quickly scan their inbox to decide which messages to read first and also helps when searching for a message after a conversation has ended.

Don’t use email when another medium makes more sense. Use email only when it's the best method. In many work cultures (like at Yahoo!), instant messaging is popular for quick conversations and sending links back and forth. If you know a colleague is on the road a lot and more likely to see a text message than an email, then use text messaging. If you know someone is at her desk and might not check an email about a meeting change in half an hour, the old-fashioned land line might be the best choice.

Answer questions inline. When someone sends an email asking several questions, train yourself to reply inline, inserting your answers directly beneath each question. (Hat tip to Gina Trapani).

Don’t get the last word in.  There is usually no reason to cap off a long exchange with "thank you" (and certainly, "you're welcome").  An email conversation has to end at some point.

Use the cc function sparingly. Try to cc only those who need to know and avoid cc-ing long lists of people unless it is important that everyone know who else received a message. Certainly don’t use the cc function if you don’t want people on the list to know the names of the other people receiving the same message.

Keep it brief.  When was the last time you read a work-related email and wished it was longer?

Ask whether people prefer attachments or inline pasting. Many people dislike receiving attachments, but it's good to ask someone's preference if you're going to be sending documents back and forth. Consider tools that allow two people to share and work on a document together rather than attachments.  I’m a big fan of Google Docs for this purpose. Gina Trapani turned me onto two other tools -- Zoho and Approver -- that also allow collaborators to share documents.

Give up cutesy handles. Try to stay as close to your name or a shorthand for your name as possible. "Purtygrl" might be just fine for your online dating life, but give it up when you're corresponding about work matters.

Use personal email for personal correspondence
. That includes job searching.

Say no to chain letters and jokes. While the rare forwarded email evokes a smile or a warm feeling, they are mostly irritating. And while you expect those emails from your batty aunt, you don’t want to be getting them from professional contacts.

Avoid shared email addresses. Do not share an email with a spouse or partner (either the professional or the business kind.) Grown-ups should have their own email addresses.

What are some of the worst email mistakes you find people still make?
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  • Virgil Villani's Avatar
    Posted by Virgil Villani Mon Jun 29, 2009 8:57am PDT

    Thank you for listing some of those items to make e-mails more professional and efficient. There definately should be some in-house training on e-mail etiquette as a refresher for some and a strating point for others. Employees should not take offense since electronic mediums are always rapidly eveolving with additional modes of communications.

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  • Raky's Avatar
    Posted by Raky Mon Jun 29, 2009 11:02am PDT

    it's nice to know that some tips of enlightenment for writing emails through this medium ,,, has been posted here. i used to do it even when chatting... now i know it's not good and much of unethical to do.thanks and more power.

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  • pdx girl's Avatar
    Posted by pdx girl Mon Jun 29, 2009 12:02pm PDT

    One more that you did not mention. When joining facebook, or another social networking site, do not send invitations to your entire contact list. I am an HR manager and you would not believe the number of "friend" requests I receive to my work e-mail from people I don't know, who have only sent me their resume.

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  • Erin's Avatar
    Posted by Erin Mon Jun 29, 2009 6:20pm PDT

    Please don't use "stationery" for your email. Or animated images in your signatures. Or multiple colors/fonts/point sizes ... or anything else that makes me think that, if possible in email, you would sign your name with a smiley face over the "i"!

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  • Rachel's Avatar
    Posted by Rachel Tue Jun 30, 2009 6:55am PDT

    This was a good list and I also agree with the comment from dressaday about the stationary and images!

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  • B. J.'s Avatar
    Posted by B. J. Tue Jun 30, 2009 7:19am PDT

    My only bad habit is being wordy. However, it comes from a desire to provide all the needed information. And, I detest sentences that are nothing but abbreviated phases. If I'm emailing for a printing quote and I request it the way most people would and only say "I need a price on 5000 full color, letter-size flyers," then I guarantee there'll be a reply asking if I'll need a bleed; a third email asking what weight and finish of stock do I want; and a fourth about what turn-around do I need; maybe more. So, I try to list all the specs in as few words as possible.

    I know most people want to read about 8 words and move on, but it wastes more time to email back and forth 5 times. Just read my first email and you'll have it all. I even get responses that thank me for being so thorough. I often get, "Thanks for all the necessities. I should be able to get you your quote ASAP."

    Also, thanks for pointing out the stationary and animation. I hate getting emails that do not look like business communications. I'm always afraid the boss will walk by and think I'm goofing off.

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  • Tracy's Avatar
    Posted by Tracy Tue Jun 30, 2009 12:12pm PDT

    Using text messaging abbreviations in emails is horrendous. ie, thx for thanks, u for you. Write the words out and punctuate properly!

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  • schibber's Avatar
    Posted by schibber Tue Jun 30, 2009 12:16pm PDT

    You also forgot that you shouldn't use smilies or LOL in business communication. It just looks stupid. Use real words to express what you are thinking.

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  • Phoenix's Avatar
    Posted by Phoenix Tue Jun 30, 2009 1:57pm PDT

    Hey B.J.!

    I'm in the printing industry, and you're absolutely right. Sometimes "more" is needed in work correspondence.

    In general, though, great tips Marci!

    ~Peace

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  • MP's Avatar
    Posted by MP Tue Jun 30, 2009 2:28pm PDT

    This is an issue I didn’t see listed above.

    I manage grants and accounts for a nonprofit foundation and I can't tell you how many reports and communications I receive that aren't even addressed to me! No "Hello MP, Good Afternoon Mp etc." It drives me nuts! Likewise, emails that end without a person signing their name or saying thank you etc. Don't go over the top, but be professional. I always try to respond in such a manner that will give the recipient a "hint." The majority of the time I am communicating with people via email; they (other nonprofits) are asking me (the nonprofit I work for) for money, resources, and/or other help. I remember those with bad email etiquette, and frankly their chances of receiving help plummet with every inappropriate exchange. If they can’t manage a professional conversation, how are they going to manage several thousand dollars etc?

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