Creating Destiny

People often wonder if they're 'destined' for fame, longevity, marriage or children. I believe destiny is based on the soul's consciousness at birth combined with the thoughts, actions and choices made during the lifetime. There will be some experiences that will be strongly destined and others that will be choices. For example, some people are strongly destined to have a family and children and it is easy to accomplish -- it happens without thought or planning (as we all have seen both happily and unhappily!). For others, there is deep soul level work that must be done in order to find a mate and create a family. Work, health or other issues might come more easily to that person.

Although it is possible for a psychic or astrologer to give a description of future events and the nature or descriptions of significant people, the longer I do this work, the more careful I have become about my choice of words. How can something be said so that it empowers a person, does not create fear or anxiety, nor get in the way of the proper unfolding of the life. Many of you are developing your intuition or learning the basics of astrology or how to use tarot cards. These are questions to consider. Even in the most casual situations it is beneficial to consider our impact in an ethical way. How are my words and actions affecting this person's life path and karma?

Even if you are in the role of the client, how you ask questions can either be in such a way that you are asking for deeper, helpful information to help you unfold in alignment with your path, or you may find yourself leading the intuitive into giving you predictions as if destiny is an absolute. Even when you have received an answer that allows for the use of your free will, you might find yourself interpreting answers to add to your fears or quell your anxiety. Learning to trust and surrender to your higher self will allow you to hear reality and stay connected to your power.

An example of the need for predictive caution would be if you had just met your future husband, I would not tell you absolutely he is the 'one' unless he knows it also. Otherwise, if you think he's your future husband and he thinks you're a nice woman he just had two dates with, the imbalance in expectations could badly influence the beginning of the relationship. Additionally, you might overlook issues you need to deal with in the beginning because you're believing he's the husband and imagining things will work out without confronting issues that must be addressed.

 The bottom line is this: you have choice. You have power to affect situations with your thoughts, words and actions. As the culture moves deeply into an enjoyment of intuitive, astrological and other metaphysical insights, we need a reminder to stay grounded and utilize these tools wisely.