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Saturday, November 28, 2009

Babies in the office: Is it a good idea to bring kids to work?

By Nataly Kogan for Work It, Mom!

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According to this article I read in the New York Times more companies are allowing moms to bring their babies to work.

My reaction, as I read it, was why would anyone want to bring their child to work? Granted, I’ve never worked for a company that allowed this, but I don’t see the appeal. As things stand I struggle constantly to give 100% of my attention to my daughter when I am with her and to my work when I am working — I think this would be nearly impossible to do if my daughter were, in fact, right there where I work. I’m also fairly certain that having a baby running around an office is at least somewhat distracting to other people who work there, even if they absolutely positively adore babies and have lots of their own.

What I would have loved to have when my daughter was a baby is a daycare that was in my office building. It would have been great to stop by and see her during lunch or to be able to breastfeed her there comfortably rather than attach myself to a vicious, loud, angry machine (aka the breast pump) three times a day while my assistant stood guard outside my no-lock office door. But to actually have my baby in the office? I don’t see the appeal.

I’ve been lucky to have a reasonable (1/2 hour) commute since my daughter was born and to even be able to work from home part of the time during the past several years. Perhaps if this were not the case I would see more benefit in having my child in the office where I worked. But for now, you guys will have to show me what I am missing: Would you bring your baby to work if you could? How would you deal with the distraction, for you and your colleagues? Are there other upsides or downsides I am missing?

Nataly Kogan is the co-founder and CEO of Workitmom.com, an online community and helpful resource for working moms.

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  • wishingkayla's Avatar
    Posted by wishingkayla Mon Feb 23, 2009 11:34am PST

    Hi Nataly,

    I was able to work part time from home and take both of my babies (now 8&10) into the office 2 days a week for the first 6 months of their lives. They went into daycare after.

    It was tough at first, but after a while, taking care of the baby between tasks can become routine. I think it takes a low-stress office environment to make it work. It also helped me to have a vacant office so I could spread out. My babies were also healthy, relatively easy to care for. If you can make it work, I recommend it......at least for a few months. I would never trade that bonding time for anything.

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  • Susan's Avatar
    Posted by Susan Tue Feb 24, 2009 7:36am PST

    That's crazy! I'd never bring my baby to work! I can't get anything done at home like housework because she constantly needs my attention, so there is no way I'd get office work done. I could just imagine being with a client or on an important phone call and having to say "hold on, baby's hungry/crying/poopy/just spit up all over the place/etc. Or having a baby (crying or not) in a meeting! I can't believe any office would allow anyone to bring their baby to work. It would be so distracting and disruptive to productivity. If I take my baby anywhere I need a huge collection of stuff (portable crib for naps, somewhere to change diapers, bottles, food, toys, extra clothes in the event of spit-up, etc. I would have to spread out into other people's workspaces or use the breakroom! Where would they nap? No baby could possibly nap in my former office (I'm a stay at home mom now) with the phone constantly ringing and people shouting over the intercom all the time. Plus I couldn't just leave my baby unattended when I have to meet with clients (several times a day every day) and constantly run up and down to the copy room and file room, and I'm certainly not going to burden my co-workers and ask them to keep an eye on the baby for a second, that isn't their job. Plus most offices are freezing. I would be very annoyed if there were babies around all day at my office. If your workplace isn't a daycare center, then in my opinion, babies don't belong there (except for brief visits to show off new babies to co-workers while the parent is still on leave). I do agree that daycare centers in the office building would be a wonderful thing and it would be nice if more companies did that. One more thing - to me, parenting is a full-time job that demands all your attention, a baby is not just something to tuck into a corner so you can get on with your "real" job. I don't mean everyone should stay at home, not at all, but when you are at your office, concentrate fully on that, and when you are taking care of your baby, concentrate fully on that and give the baby the attention he or she needs...reading to her, singing, holding, talking, etc. not to mention the regular care needs like diapering, etc. How could anyone get their office work done with a baby there to take care of? I just don't understand.

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  • Jennifer C's Avatar
    Posted by Jennifer C Tue Feb 24, 2009 7:51am PST

    As a person who does not have children I agree with the two of you. I would be totally distracted having babies around. I would never do any work. I would always want to hold them or play with them. LOVE the idea of daycare centers in office building. It would actually help more people. Hopefully it will catch on as a trend by the time I start my brood.

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  • Rach's Avatar
    Posted by Rach Tue Feb 24, 2009 8:14am PST

    If a daycare centers is in office building or close to the office, that one will be better and makes some parenting put their mind at rest and be able to work in the office. Also the children will not distub other people working.

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  • beautifully's Avatar
    Posted by beautifully Tue Feb 24, 2009 11:18am PST

    I would never bring my baby to work. It is hard enough to keep your individual identity after a baby comes along. The first 3 months of my son's life, I changed my name to "milkbags" not mommy.

    A job or career is a major defining point in anyone's life. I would not want to lose that little bit of "me" by bringing my baby to work. Besides, I don't see how that could benefit the babies in any way. And that is what everything in parenthood should be about. I need to be the best me (and really know who that is) to be the best for my little guy.

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  • gigi's Avatar
    Posted by gigi Wed Feb 25, 2009 5:14am PST

    bringing your baby to work is great if u have the right environment to do so. most companies don't have the space for young children to leave them or the childcare to take care of them. i left my child at home with a very good caregiver and she was my friend as well. she was well taken care of and loved being at home.

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  • lovey's Avatar
    Posted by lovey Wed Feb 25, 2009 5:26am PST

    whether they allow it or not, you are there to work. i can see this causing lots of friction with those who do not have young children or who do not bring their kids to work. very disruptive for the entire office...don't do it!

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  • Jeannette's Avatar
    Posted by Jeannette Wed Feb 25, 2009 5:33am PST

    I agree that babies at work can be very distracting, however, companies are not very understanding whenever you call out sick because you don't have anyone to take care of your child. In some companies, when you are out, someone else has to cover your desk. This is a no win situation. I have bought my son to work with me a few times, granted he wasn't a baby he was about 8 or 9 but what was the other alternative, call in sick again and make someone else carry my work load for that day? For those of you who don't have kids, be a little patient if a woman brings in her child. Trust me, she doesn't want the baby to be there anymore than you do.

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  • Sandy's Avatar
    Posted by Sandy Wed Feb 25, 2009 5:42am PST

    This depends on the type of job you have. I knew a woman who worked as as a bookkeeper at a funeral home. She was allowed to bring her baby to work with her and her boss said it didn't bother anyone else. She had a really large office, all set up with a playpen and toys. She had very little customer contact and was allowed to come and go as she pleased as long as her work was done. So, this isn't impossible.

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  • Rachel_PPC's Avatar
    Posted by Rachel_PPC Wed Feb 25, 2009 5:44am PST

    Not ok...not now or ever, as far as I'm concerned.

    If there's a daycare center in the building, fine....but otherwise, children don't belong in the workplace. It's unsanitary, it's a distraction to co-workers...it's silly..a bad idea in general.

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