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Sunday, November 8, 2009

User Post: Have you gained weight since your wedding?

When you look back at your wedding photos, the last thing on your mind should be the size of your gown in comparison to your current dress size.

However, if your honeymoon jeans feel a little snug and the idea of zippering up that gown again makes your stomach weak, you're not alone. According to Lona Sandon of the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center, it's common for newlyweds to gain up to 10 pounds after tying the knot. That means long after the last slice of wedding cake has been cut, there's still some serious snacking going on between the bride and groom.

So what gives? (Hopefully not the elastic on your prenuptial pj's.) Why do newlyweds gain weight after the wedding?

While it's not an exact science, the cause of newlywed weight gain can be attributed to everything from a relaxed schedule to that shiny new Cuisinart resting on the kitchen counter. Weight gain has even been linked to post-wedding depression.

Not sure you registered for all that? Fear not. The good news is that you're not alone. Literally. Most couples experience newlywed weight gain as a pair.

After the wedding, couples may have more free time and fewer obligations weighing on their minds. Tuesday nights are no longer dedicated to practicing that first dance waltz or racing between dress fittings and tux shopping. Instead of staying up until dawn rearranging a seating chart, newlyweds tend to spend more time in bed.

While the side effects of all that cozying up may include a few calories burned, more than likely it's not enough to counterbalance that post coital pizza.

And it doesn't stop with pizza. Popular registry items like waffle makers, stand mixers and food processors tempt couples to try new recipes and throw dinner parties with all the trimmings . These big meals coupled with a relaxed exercise schedule all add up to extra pounds.

The message boards and online forums on popular wedding sites such as Brides.com and The Knot are flooded with questions from newlyweds who are curious about post-wedding weight gain. Based on the responses, it's safe to say that newlywed weight gain is widespread.

"I've been married 10 months and have put on 20 pounds," admits one newlywed.  "I watched what I ate so much before the wedding (to make sure the dress fit) then after, I went crazy.  It started on the honeymoon, all the good food and drinks, then when we got back, I skipped the gym for a month.  Now I can't seem to get any of it off."

Experts suggest that married life in and of itself may also be a natural pathway to post-wedding weight gain. "Recently married people eat about half or more of their meals together," explains Jeffery Sobal, PhD , associate professor of nutritional sciences at Cornell University. "The fact that you have dinner together is seen as one of the wonderful thing about marriage. You've got an eating partner," Sobal told WebMD. "Those meals are usually more formal and consist of multiple courses."

So instead of putting all those fancy   registry items to good use on a nightly basis, take a break from the kitchen a few nights a week, plan one or two formal meals and then keep the rest of them simple. Couples can still enjoy quality time around the table together without sitting down to a three course meal.

Try heading outdoors after every meal instead of heading to the couch. There are lots of cheap and easy ways to get your heart rate up this summer without loosening your belt. It also helps to keep both yourself and your partner in good spirits . There's no need to get down on yourself for going up a dress size.

There are lots of things to look forward to long after the honeymoon is over. Hopefully post-wedding weight gain isn't one of them. Expect that post-wedding rest and relaxation may lead to a few extra pounds but if you develop healthy habits as a couple early on, the weight won't last.

Written by Anne-Marie Scali for The Examiner .

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  • realitygirl13's Avatar
    Posted by realitygirl13 Tue Jun 30, 2009 11:50am PDT

    yup...I was married in Septmber 2008 and since then I have gained 10 pounds! But I've put a stop to it early, and I'm already down 2 of the 10 lbs :)

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  • InLove's Avatar
    Posted by InLove Tue Jun 30, 2009 12:38pm PDT

    I have been married 5 months and put on about 5 pounds... I ate really healthy before marriage, but my husband eats crap and no veggies so I have been eating to accommodate him. Also, exercise has gone down since in the evenings we just want to relax together in front of the tv. I keep trying to get back to where I was, but it's hard to stop.

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  • mommaofsun's Avatar
    Posted by mommaofsun Tue Jun 30, 2009 1:22pm PDT

    I have been married almost 9 years, and I am about 15 lbs thinner since being married.

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  • Elm's Avatar
    Posted by Elm Tue Jun 30, 2009 2:27pm PDT

    I've been married 2 years and my weight has fluctuated even before getting married. Though at the present time I am about 10 lbs overweight. I hate it. He on the other hand is about 30 lbs over so I guess we need to get to exercising together.

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  • Brandi-YOU GROW GIRL!'s Avatar
    Posted by Brandi-YOU GROW GIRL! Tue Jun 30, 2009 3:51pm PDT

    Most people go on crash diets and exercise for hours daily before their wedding...not my husband, he started eating everything in site! When I asked him why he said that people usually get skinnier for their wedding and when they look back at pictures years later get depressed and say "man I wish I looked as good now as I did on my wedding day." He said that he wanted to be heavier on our wedding day so that in 10 years when he looks back at pictures he can say " I look better now than I did when we got married!" LOL, I thought it was hilarious! I didn't diet either and I am about 5 lbs less now than I was when we got married 2 yrs ago.

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  • Susan's Avatar
    Posted by Susan Tue Jun 30, 2009 7:48pm PDT

    I gained a little weight after I got married. Prior to the wedding I worked out and exercised a lot to get in shape for the big day to look my best, and after that I got lazy (didn't have to make sure I fit in my wedding dress anymore!) and stopped working out. I gained maybe 5 pounds or so, maybe even close to 10. Also I got a different and more demanding job shortly after the wedding which meant I was exhausted from work and too tired to exercise, when I had an easier job and flexible schedule before the wedding so I had more time and energy to work out. Anyway that's my excuse. I'd love to fit into some of my old clothes but a few of them are just too tight.

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  • Joy P's Avatar
    Posted by Joy P Wed Jul 1, 2009 3:03am PDT

    I'm happy to say that I got married almost a year ago, and I have actually lost almost 20lbs. It's mostly because I was super stressed out about my job and the wedding. In Feb, I decided that I didn't want to be as heavy so I've been and I've been running and eating right ever since.

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  • Laura C's Avatar
    Posted by Laura C Wed Jul 1, 2009 5:09am PDT

    I was married just over one year ago, and am in much better shape now than the wedding day. This is mainly because my husband is a avid healthy eater and loves working out- it is contagious ;-)

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  • haley's Avatar
    Posted by haley Wed Jul 1, 2009 6:09am PDT

    i will have been married a year in august, and yep, i gained some weight since then. I can still fit into all the same clothes, thye are just tighter now, with some more muffin top. Now that its finally summer up in MN again, i'm really going ot try anbd lose the extra pounds. Its just very hard ot keep it off when most of the year is winter, and... if i make my husband do all the snow shoveling!

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  • Not a one's Avatar
    Posted by Not a one Wed Jul 1, 2009 6:32am PDT

    Before I got pregnant I was up 20 pounds since getting married!!! I could have used it, I was alomst emasiated when we said our vows!

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