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Friday, November 21, 2008

Do you have moral courage? Take the test:




This past Sunday, I was at Chicago O'Hare airport waiting for my flight back to LA. We boarded the plane and were ready to go before the pilot told everyone they needed to get off the plane so the air conditioning unit could be repaired. As we unhappily waited in the terminal for over an hour to re-board, a sweaty man with a toupee took offense and went ape ----- bananas on the poor United Airlines customer service agent. Most everyone in the terminal remained paralyzed, just watching, unsure what to do. The poor customer service agent, clearly exhausted and underpaid, sat there and took the abuse.

But then, in a beautifully courageous act that deserves some kind of citizen's medal of honor, one man had enough and jumped in on behalf of the poor customer service agent. And then another man jumped to her defense. And before you knew it, four people were screaming at the sweaty man with a toupee and soon enough, he backed down. In my mind, it was Iwo Jima in O'Hare. Like those infamous soldiers raising the American flag, those four people hoisted the dignity of the embroiled airline employee.

On that lazy Sunday in Chicago, I embraced something that previously I only half-understood. Catch yourself next time you are paralyzed and helplessly watching life unfold. Pull over and assist the person who just got in an accident. Stand up for the employee taking a verbal beat-down from an obnoxious customer. Those four people in O'Hare exhibited another form of valor prerequisite to victory in another kind of battle. It's a battle endured every day by every human being in every corner of the globe. Mark Twain described it best, "It is curious--curious that physical courage should be so common in the world, and moral courage so rare."

Here's a test to measure your moral courage:

1. You are married. At work, you find yourself suddenly attracted to the young, spunky intern who says, "What d'ya say we meet in the parking lot at lunch? Nobody will ever find out, I swear."

a. You go for a long lunch and upon returning very disheveled, you tell your co-workers "those spicy tacos from Taco Hut drive me into a tizzy."

b. You respond to the spunky, young intern, "Why wait til lunch. I'll meet you right now in the bathroom."

c. You tell the spunky, young intern, "Thanks but no thanks. I'm not sure what you think this wedding ring means but I'll tell you one thing, hit on me again and you'll be out of work faster than a stray dog running through Hanoi."

2. Your friend has a strange tendency to litter while driving. They drop coke cans, water bottles, cigarette butts right out the window.

a. You tell them, " Y'know what, the environment is in trouble. Stop doing that now or I'll tell your wife all about your porn collection."

b. You tell them, "Y'know what, you're right! To heck with all this environmental mumbo, jumbo. I think I'll go right ahead" and you drop your own coke can right out the window.

c. You tell them, "That is a terrible thing to do. Get a grip and stop littering for the good of Planet Earth!"

3. Your friend smokes way too much pot and wreaks of smoke, even in important company meetings.

a. You steal their stash of weed and smoke it all to save your friend from potential trouble.

b. You anonymously call your friend's boss and let her know, "One of your employees is always high at work and his first name starts with an 's' and his last names starts with a 'p'. "

c. You confront your friend and have the courage to suggest he seek help with his addiction.


If you chose the following, you have a high level of moral courage:

1. c
2. c
3. c





By David Romanelli (Yeah Dave)

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  • piggiepie717's Avatar
    Posted by piggiepie717 Fri Sep 5, 2008 11:25am PDT

    eh,

    C,A,C

    that second one is a toss up, yes they SHOULD stop littering for the sake of the earth, but most people are selfish, the porn collection hits home. you tell him C and i guarantee they'll still drop it. you tell them A and that piece of trash will wind up where it belongs in the garbage or recycling bin.

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  • Lindsey's Avatar
    Posted by Lindsey Fri Sep 5, 2008 11:57am PDT

    Well...I'd have to say #3 was hard for me ;)

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  • maivy's Avatar
    Posted by maivy Fri Sep 5, 2008 12:03pm PDT

    I just went through a situation today at an embassy where I was verbally abused by a member of staff there, because I dared to ask a question concerning the forms. No one came to my rescue-two of the impolite staff's(a guy) female colleagues even laughed at me openly. A kindly lady just told me to calm down and ignore them. My point-should I have kept quiet and reacted like a timid child when I was dismissed rudely after asking the question, or was my reaction (asking my question) and consequent abuse worthwhile?

    I believe I'm a person with moral courage;I always call my friends to order when they throw trash out of a car window, or advise my friends who smoke to quit the habit. I also tell people how unneccessary it is to be rude to service staff(waiters, sales girls, etc) The problem? it makes me unpopular, and I'm seen as a 'goody-two-shoes'. It's tough...

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  • Barachiel's Avatar
    Posted by Barachiel Fri Sep 5, 2008 5:45pm PDT

    I'll go all C's. Unless my buddy has a prescription card and is smoking sativa which allows him to function at work.

    What?

    When I was growing up it was legal to grow it, and I live in SoCal.

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  • soulshine's Avatar
    Posted by soulshine Sat Sep 6, 2008 1:57am PDT

    moral courage has been an asset in handling married men & "guys who just wanna have fun" ; Something I had to "learn" the hard way....

    Sure does leave your conscious clear when U make a "conscious decision"

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  • Beatlegirl's Avatar
    Posted by Beatlegirl Sat Sep 6, 2008 6:42am PDT

    My wake up call!

    I witnessed a co-worker belittle a customer last week. As I watched in horror, I did nothing, probably because she is my boss and I am afraid of the ramifications, I complained at home to my husband, but in the end did nothing. This is one of many instances.

    NO MORE! The next time she has this power trip, I'm gonna step in.....

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  • Nina T's Avatar
    Posted by Nina T Sat Sep 6, 2008 11:31am PDT

    I got all C's.

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  • kileannie's Avatar
    Posted by kileannie Sat Sep 6, 2008 12:39pm PDT

    It is absolutely delightful to come across an article about moral courage -- so much more refreshing than the usual cult of personality nonsense. The idea that one must use a moral compass in order to navigate a meaningful life is too often overshadowed by the idea that one must HAVE a Navigator in order to live a meaningful life. Cudos for having the moral courage to post this piece.

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  • fools_and_sages's Avatar
    Posted by fools_and_sages Sat Sep 6, 2008 4:15pm PDT

    It does take courage to defend another person from the unfair abuses of others. I stuck up for an Asian Subway shop owner when some lowlife began screaming about how long the wait was and how foreigners come in and steal jobs away from white Americans. Jerk Wad didn't realize the Asian guy OWNED the Subway we were in-- so he was actually giving jobs to the white people behind the counter with him.

    It also takes couage to stand up to your friends or coworkers for behaving badly or inappropriately. But you also need to be cautious about using your moral courage.

    For example, if you tell your boss your coworker is always high and your coworker loses their job, then you run the risk of building an unflattering reputation for yourself among the rest of your coworkers. You become the company Nark and people will never trust you with anything because they will think you are the boss' lackey.

    Additionally, you need to examine your motives. If the mj addict is comprimising the integrity of the company by doing a bad job, you are justified in saying something. If you are saying something just because you can't stand sitting next to somebody who stinks of smoke, you need to be aware that your "moral courage" may simply be a self-serving act that MIGHT benefit the company. If the boss thinks your coworker's job performance is up to par regardless of the drugs, you may find yourself looking for a job because you look petty because it would appear like you were trying to get somebody fired just because you don't like the way they smell.

    So, as with anything else, pick your battles.

    And nobody should hold anybody else to their own moral standards. The tone of this article basically says "If you don't do these things exactly the way I would, then you aren't morally courageous." And THAT is pure bull* ----- . Some people could careless about the environment but they would fight off an armed street gang with their bare hands if the gang was harrassing an old woman. So. .don't impose your beliefs on others. Everybody has their own standards of moral courage.

    And, in all honesty, most people only become morally courgeous when they are being bothered by some blowhard who is distubing the peace-- like they guy in the airport.

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  • whiteoakmiracle's Avatar
    Posted by whiteoakmiracle Sat Sep 6, 2008 5:20pm PDT

    My Dad told me that prison crews pick up litter, and it gives them an easy job and lets them be outside in nature!

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