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Monday, November 23, 2009

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Are you cheap?

"Cheap" is a mostly dirty word in the fashion writing business. If something is inexpensive, you call it affordable. If something is on major sale, you call it "deeply discounted" or a "bargain" attached to some sort of delightful adjective. This is because no one wants to think of themselves--or anything that they may be buying--as anywhere related to the C-word. However, after a night spent talking with other New York women about how they buy clothes, I've discerned that I am in fact cheap. And I am all sorts of conflicted about it.

I'll spare you the boring, soul-searching details, but essentially it all comes down to a pair of boots. I have wanted these, from Loeffler Randall, for approximately 100 years (Mandy Moore loves them, too). But I haven't bought them. I haven't bought them because I don't want to be the girl who buys $700 boots. I feel like once I become that woman, there's no turning back: I fear I'll become addicted to $700 boots, I won't appreciate them, I'll ruin them, and, perhaps more than anything else, I don't really need them. (And maybe don't deserve them? Oh, Catholic guilt, I missed you!)

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My best friend Lara (who once purchased a pair of Jimmy Choos so expensive, she still won't tell me how much they cost) chastised me for this behavior: "Just buy the bleeping boots, just buy them new and don't buy the 100 other shoes you get on eBay that don't even fit."
Interesting point.

And this is the cheap girl's dilemma. I've bought a zillion $29 shirts that have disintegrated after three washes. I own sale items that have never fit/need repairs/come in a color I hate. The amount of money I've spent saving money could possibly buy me a tree of Loeffler Randall boots. This is not to say bargain hunting is bad, but my shopping habits lately are. Instead of getting what I really want, I hoard inexpensive, deeply discounted clothes and accessories (and if anyone is watching the amazing A&E show Hoarders, you know how terrifying this tendency can be). So, I'm considering buying the boots. Though, first, I might search for them on eBay one more time. Old dog, new tricks, etc.

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  • M.J - Fierce Beauty and Fashion's Avatar
    Posted by M.J - Fierce Beauty and Fashion Wed Sep 9, 2009 9:18am PDT

    I understand your dilemma!! My aunt though, taught me something very valuable when it comes to situations like these - when it comes to your basics, you should spend good money on them. These basics will absoluletly get worn to death so the better made they are (i.e. more expensive) the longer they will last and you save money in the long run. Stuff that's trendy, its okay to go cheap - trends are in today and gone tomorrow so you don'w want to spend money on something you will only wear a few times!

    btw: The boots are cute, and very basic, so go and splurge girl!

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  • springtime's Avatar
    Posted by springtime Wed Sep 9, 2009 9:18am PDT

    Buy them! Absolutely. I paid several hundred dollars for similar boots four years ago. They are as comfortable as house slippers. I've had them resoled once. They will last a hundred years.

    Life is too short. Take the plunge every now and then. Just don't make a regular habit of it.

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  • allee's Avatar
    Posted by allee Wed Sep 9, 2009 9:30am PDT

    I grew up in a cheap world. I still have a hard time spending more than 20 bucks on a pair of shoes. I am slowly learning though. TO spend a little more for quality, instead of that same amount for quantity. Because the cheaps stuff. like you said does not last.

    Although... If your good.... I was at a resale shop a few years ago. I saw a boot. High heal, black, Tommy Hilfiger boot. Just one boot. WIth a price tag of exactly 3 Dollars..... I put that darn boot in the bottom of my basket, under some other things, and looked high, looked low, and found the match. HA, I WIN!!! A pair of kick butt boots, for three dollars. They were never worn either. Not a single scuff mark on the bottom. !!!

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  • Pam's Avatar
    Posted by Pam Wed Sep 9, 2009 9:34am PDT

    You're not cheap, you're a smart shopper. I just got a pair of boots that literally look exactly like your picture above, wedge and all, from Target for...wait for it...$34.99!!! No, they're not real leather, but buy a few pairs, they'll last you a lifetime!

    Here's the link, let me know what you think:

    http://www.target.com/Womens-Mossimo-Kady-Boots-Cognac/dp/B002400F5E/ref=sc_qi_detaillink?ie=UTF8&pf_rd_r=11DKY3BSZTP68T2ZN4D8&pf_rd_p=436115101&pf_rd_i=B002400F5E&pf_rd_s=right-1&pf_rd_m=A1VC38T7YXB528&pf_rd_t=5101

    Check out more looks for less at www.yougotpamd.com

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  • starfedra's Avatar
    Posted by starfedra Wed Sep 9, 2009 9:53am PDT

    Buy them..!! I always wanted a pair of Manolo Blahniks and never wanted to spend that much money but one day my husband tired of listen to me he went and bought them for me so I finally shut up, now I splurge once in a while, I have a few beautiful shoes, and a few beautiful bags, which I keep wearing and wearing, even the Manolos back from 6 years ago..

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  • Elm's Avatar
    Posted by Elm Wed Sep 9, 2009 9:54am PDT

    $700 is a bit too much. I would try to find a similar style in maybe a different brand. Check DSW, Bakers or Sketchers websites, I guarantee you will find some exactly like those for wayyy less.

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  • Rebekah's Avatar
    Posted by Rebekah Wed Sep 9, 2009 10:18am PDT

    Like Allee, I grew up in a "cheap" world, and used to only buy the bargain clothes. I've learned that its better to save your money and buy a few things you will really wear for more money than to buy cheap clothes that you won't wear, or that fall apart quickly. But there's a difference between paying a reasonable price for quality items, and paying a ridiculouly high amount for a designer label (because that's what they're really charging you for). No way does it cost $700 to make a pair of shoes--the company will probably be making a profit of hundreds of dollars. In the end, its your money, you can splurge if you want to--but how many more pairs of shoes (or whatever else catches your fancy) could you buy if you find a pair of boots that are more reasonably priced?

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  • stupid kid's Avatar
    Posted by stupid kid Thu Sep 10, 2009 10:30am PDT

    700.00 DOLLARS, REALLY. THAT'S MORE THAN MY RENT.

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  • K8L's Avatar
    Posted by K8L Thu Sep 10, 2009 11:50am PDT

    WOW. 700 for shoes? I wish my life was so simple I devoted all that time to thinking about it. Instead I think of how I'll pay my husbands medical bills. I thought it was funny when you said a 29 dollar shirt was cheap. I have a pair of jeans from *gasp* Walmart-7 bucks. They have lasted years, and did I mention they are extraordinarily cute? I saw the exact same jeans at Hollister for 80! I'm sorry you are out of touch with what is affordable for real people. I think the day I buy 700 dollar shoes is the day I don't really like myself anymore because I have become a person who wastes money that other people working 3 jobs just to support their family would kill for. Phew....rant over now.

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  • The Mims's Avatar
    Posted by The Mims Thu Sep 10, 2009 2:00pm PDT

    $29 shirts that have disintegrated after three washes?? You're kidding! What do you do, take them to the river and pound them on rocks with lye soap??? I have beautiful $9 pima cotton t-shirts that have lasted more than a year and still look brand new (I got them on sale). I have name brand dresses that I got on sale for under $20. I've had some classic pumps for years.

    I buy affordable clothes and TAKE CARE of them. That means hand washing blouses and dresses, polishing shoes, steaming skirts and jackets, etc. You can call me cheap-- doesn't bother me a bit. I don't need expensive clothes or shoes to boost my self-esteem or define who I am. I know I'm smarter than the women who can't think for themselves and spend bucketloads to feel like they belong.

    Buying crappy, inferior clothes is not "cheap"-- it's stupid.

    Try buying good quality clothes at affordable prices and not falling victim to the 'designer label" mentality.

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